Should I get revenge on ex Boyfriend

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I broke up with my so called boyfriend on Tuesday after 4 and a half years as he was insistent that he was seperated but just living with his "kids Mum" as he called her for financial purporses. They have a 28 year old son who doesnt live at home and a 25 year old daughter who does.

I was living with my ex husband under the same roof but was able to speak to my boyfriend any time I was at home as I could have been on the phone to anyone....

My ex couldnt and my ex has now been moved out for 9 months and my ex regualry came round and saw my children and even then I still couldnt speak to him in his home if she was in the home.

I am so over him and cant believe i fell for this rubbish.

Equally he has already left this woman once 20 years ago and has been living back in the marital home for th past 10 ive was his so called girlfriend for 4.5 years of this.

What would you do, tell her so that he gets his just desserts or

Walk away with my head held high...

I am so over him I thinlk number 2 could be the best option. Equally he is a liar and should be called out. He is 58 by the way...

Any suggestions of how I should do it if you think she should know would also be welcomed. Thanks in advance

Don't do anything.

I'm always suspicious when the woman scorned wants to tell the wife/girlfriend what's happened. Are you secretly hoping she'll kick him to the curb and he'll come running back to you?

Walk away and don't saddle yourself with a load of drama. He's a loser. Crack open a bottle to celebrate and be happy he is someone else's problem now.

I get the walking away with your head held high and being the bigger person… BUT… people like this seem to get away Scott free and will probably do it again. Sometimes rubbing his nose in it is the only way he will learn for next time

In the time it would take to have the drama, you could run yourself a nice hot bath.

Be kind to you, a thought on him and his life is a wasted thought.

Best case, she dumps him and he moves out. His kids, even at their ages, are likely to be affected.

Damage attracts damage.

Leave it and live a better 4.5 years.

Thanks for the advice... I will be at peace for the time being!!! It is good to be at peace about it all. I will leave it for now. She is welcome to him and I feel like ive had a lucky escape.... off to my work party so at least have things to keep me occupied... thanks for the good advice xx

Why did you enter a 4 1/2 yr relationship with a married man?
I think the wife deserves to know her husbands had a very long affair, but don’t underestimate the damage you’ll both have caused to the poor women.

Revenge only hurts you further

Do nothing. Block and move on