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Some of the parents in our children's class have very kindly organised a surprise leaving party for the year 6 children.
The 'surprise' has unfortunately been leaked by one of the children. One of the mothers has sent a message to the whatsapp group (please see below. I have changed the names)
Do you think this message is a bit over the top? I feel for whoever's child it is as they will now be picked on.

The Message:

Evening all I have some very upsetting and heartbreaking news to share with you. 😢💔

It’s come to my attention there a couple of children who have access to this and the other PARENT group chat and have spoiled the surprise. Especially one child in particular I know who the child is and feel like naming and shaming!
They have shared all the information from the day of the party, time, what’s happening there and the hoodies.
They have even shared the sizes and colours to the children and that is sensitive information.

Myself, Parent 1, Parent 2, Parent 3 have all worked incredibly hard over the past few months from calling venues, DJ’s booking things and surprises.
We also all work full time have so much going on in our personal lives and it hasn’t been easy.
To say the least I’m extremely hurt by this as we have even kept all of this away from our own children. It really feels like a kick in the stomach. It’s been so stressful and now I personally am fuming all hard work has been wasted.
Parent groups are for parents and there are other conversations on the groups that aren’t for children’s eyes or ears.
We have expressed time after time this is a surprise and that our children do not know.

The jumpers have been a nightmare amongst other things going backwards and forwards to suppliers etc.

I really really hope the person that has done this is ashamed of themselves and comes clean to the parents and apologises!

For me the excitement has gone and if this information had come out even a week ago no would have cancelled the whole thing.

The school haven’t taken on the stress of organising any of it and we stepped up if it wasn’t for us the kids would just be having that one last thing together at flip out and nothing else.

I’m sorry to rant but I hope you can all understand how hurt we are feeling.

💔💔💔

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

I want multiple parents to come forward and say ‘my child knew’ to take the pressure off the poor child who told everyone.

Yeh. “I’m Spartacus”

As Amanda said, this kids actions is catastrophic and the repercussions of this will be felt for years to come 🤣

I thought you were going to involve the Vatican😆😅🤣

No I wouldn't do that, but I'm a bit of a wallflower. Some people really are drama queens. I don't really see anything wrong with that. They make life more colourful and give us all something to chuckle and gossip about.

The Irish woman's kids was the perpetrator in the scenario

Is it a good time to message her telling her the leaver hoodie on the last day is a really crap present, because no kid will want to be seen in them after the last day of primary school and it's a complete waste? 😂

I think this is exactly the sort of thread the Daily Mail would love to pick up, and you have chosen to post her message of hurt here which is bad enough, encouraging lots of people to laugh at her and say she’s being over the top. You didn’t stop and think, well she’s being OTT but on the other hand she’s done an amazing thing for my kid and I am grateful for that, so I will let it go. You went for the cheap laughs here. And when it’s printed in the DM how much more hurt do you think she will feel? I think you may end up causing her to cancel the whole thing.

Oh God. This reminds me of an awful office I used to work at.

We had wine on Fridays and one Friday the big boss writes an essay length company-wide email saying one of her PERSONAL bottles was opened, who opened the bottle, and how heartbroken and disappointed she is, after having the kindness of organise the Friday wine, and how this has now been 'put in jeopardy' by this horrific action.

Then wrote another email confirming 'amends had been made' and the people involved 'dealt with appropriately.'

I didn't end up staying there long...

They would be WAY more excited knowing there was a party, plan outfits, seeing what make up they can get away with, boys practice sliding on their knees across the room rather than dancing…

can we all take a moment to bow our heads in thoughts and prayers for the torment of the organiser!

At our primary a group of parents complained to the Governors because as part of the PTA trying to recruit volunteers for the magnificent annual Xmas Fair they put up a chart on the school door, a list of jobs in small writing on a spreadsheet, including a call out for two Santas to cover 2 shifts.

’Ruining Christmas’ ‘Disrespect’ ‘Cruelty to small children’ who would be ‘distraught’ for the entire Xmas season were all cited as reasons why the PTA committee should be shamed, sacked and disbanded.

She needs to get a sense of perspective. I can understand that she has worked hard. But it's hardly heartbreaking or the end of the world if the children know about it. Why did it have to be a suprise anyway? Can't they just look forward to it? They can still enjoy it.
I hate to think how she might cope in a real crisis or if something really heartbreaking happened

Completely over the top and self centric. I don’t know who these people think they are. Imagine if they had to deal with a real crisis

Oh give over, she shouldn’t be such a dramatic glory seeker then

I have some very upsetting and heartbreaking news to share with you.

"Holy fucking hell when I read this I thought someone's child had died! Get a tighter grip on your llamas and a soupçon of perspective you absolute (insert expressive descriptor of choice)."

The surprise would have pissed me off in the first place, completely unrealistic with a group that size, and if my DC didn't cope well with surprises or was upset nothing was organised I wouldn't have kept it anyway.

Post "oh well, sure now they all have the excitement of looking forward to it and the party itself will be brilliant. Such an exciting time for them!"

I think someone has reported it so it looks like it will be taken down.
I honestly didn't think it would get such a big reaction and I wasn't putting it up for laughs. I put it on here to see if it others thought it was a bit over the top.
You seem quite annoyed about it. So I am sorry.

Sounds like she organised it just for the kudos.

She should be called out on her named and shamed comment. I’d let the school know.

Also what happens if the kids aren’t grateful enough? Will she lose the plot?

Sorry I have not read the thread... but my understanding is that all schools do the hoodie for year 6 leavers. They also have their glass party's and/,or year 6 prom . So i don't get what this parent group thing is actually doing are the kids getting 2 hoodies and 2 party's

I'm genuinely the Queen of making a mountain out of a molehill and getting offended.

Even I couldn't be too fussed with this being leaked. The kids will get even more enjoyment in the build up, now!

I can see why she's so disappointed. It's shit when you work so hard on something and it doesn't go as planned. Trust me, I'm an ex event planner!
If she's got other stuff going on in her life maybe she's feeling like this was something she had control over and now she's lost that.

That said, the message is ott and many of those feelings she's having didn't need venting.

She could have just said
"event is no longer a surprise as someone discovered the messages. What a shame! So let's change direction and make a huge deal about it to get the kids excited"

Cancelling the party now that all the kids are looking forward to it... wow, even Motherland wouldn't go that far 😂

This is the most Motherland thing I’ve ever seen

Oh god, I can still imagine the fallout if I'd tried to take one of mine to a surprise party. Absolute meltdown.