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Some of the parents in our children's class have very kindly organised a surprise leaving party for the year 6 children.
The 'surprise' has unfortunately been leaked by one of the children. One of the mothers has sent a message to the whatsapp group (please see below. I have changed the names)
Do you think this message is a bit over the top? I feel for whoever's child it is as they will now be picked on.

The Message:

Evening all I have some very upsetting and heartbreaking news to share with you. 😢💔

It’s come to my attention there a couple of children who have access to this and the other PARENT group chat and have spoiled the surprise. Especially one child in particular I know who the child is and feel like naming and shaming!
They have shared all the information from the day of the party, time, what’s happening there and the hoodies.
They have even shared the sizes and colours to the children and that is sensitive information.

Myself, Parent 1, Parent 2, Parent 3 have all worked incredibly hard over the past few months from calling venues, DJ’s booking things and surprises.
We also all work full time have so much going on in our personal lives and it hasn’t been easy.
To say the least I’m extremely hurt by this as we have even kept all of this away from our own children. It really feels like a kick in the stomach. It’s been so stressful and now I personally am fuming all hard work has been wasted.
Parent groups are for parents and there are other conversations on the groups that aren’t for children’s eyes or ears.
We have expressed time after time this is a surprise and that our children do not know.

The jumpers have been a nightmare amongst other things going backwards and forwards to suppliers etc.

I really really hope the person that has done this is ashamed of themselves and comes clean to the parents and apologises!

For me the excitement has gone and if this information had come out even a week ago no would have cancelled the whole thing.

The school haven’t taken on the stress of organising any of it and we stepped up if it wasn’t for us the kids would just be having that one last thing together at flip out and nothing else.

I’m sorry to rant but I hope you can all understand how hurt we are feeling.

💔💔💔

Children know about a party - Heartbroken -WTF???

I wonder what she'd have whatsapped if she was involved with the school where the teacher got stabbed earlier in the week.

I'd have to smash my own phone to prevent me replying and telling this person to get a fucking grip.

I've still got a few years of primary WhatsApp groups left but they really are the worst.

I would have to at least with reply with "when you said heartbreaking news I was really worried something terrible had happened and that somebody had died"

What a fucking drama queen. 🙄

🤣🤣

What a fucking tit!! I wouldn't be happy if I was her and someone was letting their kid share all that info, but what a dramatic response to say its ruined and all that!!! 🤣🤣🤣

Remember though, surprises are usually about the person organising it, not the receiver.
I completely empathise with the parent for the work she has put in in organising it, but the surprise element imo is always for the organiser and to make them feel good about themselves.

Tell them you know which child it was, but that you will only share if you are offered witness support, possibly extending to relocation and a change of identity.

I don't know what it says about me, but I don't see anything wrong with that email. I would be livid if I went to the trouble of organising a surprise party and someone's kid blabbed about it and spoiled the surprise. They would have had to go to great lengths to keep it secret and that is all for nothing.

My friend organised a surprise party for his wife and he had to go to such lengths (finding old schoolfriends etc) that she thought he was having an affair.

Her point about kids not having access to parent whatsapp group is very important. What if they were talking about something more sensitive?

Pretty impressive of a year 6 to remember the sizes (?!) and colours of each hoodie for everyone in the year when most can't even remember their own jumpers after PE......

You could ask MNHQ to take the message out of your opening post (although I think its kind of necessary to read it to see the true level of bat shittery involved!!)

What a bitch.

She would have cancelled it had she known the surprise element was gone

Because yeah the leavers party is all about HER enjoyment.

Hope her kid's embarrassed for her.

Colours of ballon being let out is heartbreaking? FFS

I think I would put on “no harm, no foul. Am sure this wasn’t done in malice, but rather excitement. They are all young children at the end of the day and don't’ always have capacity to think things through. Hope we can all enjoy the party”

Why didn't the school organise anything for the leavers anyway? That's pretty miserable.

Surprise parties are over in a matter of hours - surely all the kids looking forward to the party and making plans, gossip and outfits are part of the fun.

Sounds like a pageant mom 😂🤣

It’s all “look at me me me aren’t I a good bloke for organising it all” Tragic

with what budget?

I don't know any state school locally who would or could organise any party. The PTA does, without them and volunteers helping nothing would be happening.

I think everyone is very very appreciative for everything she has organised. She is amazing.
It's just the message that was sent seems over the top and I worry for the child who revealed the surprise.

The kid who blabbed will be hung, drawn and quartered

@tunbridgeoutrage you'd message the parents to say how heartbroken and hurt you were? Those actual words? You don't think heartbroken is a bit of a stretch? The Mum has clearly made the whole party and surprise about her, she sounds like hard work. Although I fully agree the child shouldn't have been accessing their parents what's apps and sharing info. I'd be annoyed, but heartbroken?

Well she’s awful.

ill just leave this here

'I'm sure they were surprised when the news was dished, not to worry! Now they'll spend the next week being so excited for this, so great you organised it!'

I think she is a little understated TBH.
Why not put the child in the stocks in the public square? That is THE LEAST they deserve. Or hounded out of the area.

Though if I am honest, if I'd arranged something like this (and it does take a lot of time and patience) I would probably want to vent like she has at the people who let it slip.

It's you isnt it? 😆 you're the original martyr on the watsapp
I feel like the mother who wrote the monologue should be more worried about her child getting picked on after writing that all over a kids party

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