Roll your eyes at the drama!

[MondayblueFridayyellow]

Some of the parents in our children's class have very kindly organised a surprise leaving party for the year 6 children.
The 'surprise' has unfortunately been leaked by one of the children. One of the mothers has sent a message to the whatsapp group (please see below. I have changed the names)
Do you think this message is a bit over the top? I feel for whoever's child it is as they will now be picked on.

The Message:

Evening all I have some very upsetting and heartbreaking news to share with you. 😢💔

It’s come to my attention there a couple of children who have access to this and the other PARENT group chat and have spoiled the surprise. Especially one child in particular I know who the child is and feel like naming and shaming!
They have shared all the information from the day of the party, time, what’s happening there and the hoodies.
They have even shared the sizes and colours to the children and that is sensitive information.

Myself, Parent 1, Parent 2, Parent 3 have all worked incredibly hard over the past few months from calling venues, DJ’s booking things and surprises.
We also all work full time have so much going on in our personal lives and it hasn’t been easy.
To say the least I’m extremely hurt by this as we have even kept all of this away from our own children. It really feels like a kick in the stomach. It’s been so stressful and now I personally am fuming all hard work has been wasted.
Parent groups are for parents and there are other conversations on the groups that aren’t for children’s eyes or ears.
We have expressed time after time this is a surprise and that our children do not know.

The jumpers have been a nightmare amongst other things going backwards and forwards to suppliers etc.

I really really hope the person that has done this is ashamed of themselves and comes clean to the parents and apologises!

For me the excitement has gone and if this information had come out even a week ago no would have cancelled the whole thing.

The school haven’t taken on the stress of organising any of it and we stepped up if it wasn’t for us the kids would just be having that one last thing together at flip out and nothing else.

I’m sorry to rant but I hope you can all understand how hurt we are feeling.

💔💔💔

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Agree!!

Anyone able to write a message like that about a child is a lunatic who deserves a MN thread! 😂

All she needed to say was "Hi all, a few kids have found out about the party. Kids will be kids but could we all remind them to try and keep it a secret for the rest of the class/year?"

ANYTHING beyond the above was peak ridiculous.

This thread highlights the importance of name changes 😅

I think the party is going to be an absolute blood bath.

OP I am BEGGING you to update afterwards! Maybe in a new thread.

Title ideas?

You dont need to do anything at Primary School other than go to the occasional PTA event (school fair etc) and birthday parties. Our Whats App group is just used for reminders about school trips etc.

Agreed. Which is why it would have been best to leave it at that.

I do hope we get updates on how the party goes.

I'm not a wide eyed stirrer. It was not my intention to stir but to get peoples opinions.

Here's upset and heartbroken at tomorrows party. But is the finger pointing at OP or the child who must be shamed?

Lol

all joke aside...

If you could give just one hour of your time here and there, it would make a difference.

The funding for schools is completely shot. Schools now rely HEAVILY on the PTA to fund (or part-fund)

Educational materials (books, classroom equipment, sports equipment)
School trips
Playground equipment
School renovation projects
School costs (e.g. staff training)

funding technology, books, art supplies, science equipment or even items for a forest school for outdoor learning, online subscriptions to class learning tools.

Sport and activities are often fundraised for; like sports kits, equipment, playground toys and even swimming lessons.

As well as organising the events that are enrichment to the kids school life, disco (as you might have gathered😂), movie nights, inflatable, colour run, fairs etc..

It's a thankless task, parents have a lot of demands and criticism, but no interest in helping. The lack of volunteers is crippling so many PTA across the country and the end up cancelling a lot.

Or just to roll your eyes which is also perfectly fine

I have never read a thread so fast in my life, praying every time I changed page that I wouldn’t get a deletion message.

Mumsnet gold.

Of course it was.

Easily identify her to who? The other members of the WhatsApp group?
Who already know who she is.

Too late with that defence OP. You started it with a provocative title. Bit late now for posters remorse.

@MondayblueFridayyellow What was Amanda the organiser like on the school run?
Did you see her?

Phew, made it to the end before it got deleted. Got indigestion now but it was totally worth it 😂😂😂

I'm not remorseful. I have nothing to be remorseful about.
You are clearly part of the WhatsApp group and one of the parents who organised it.

My intention was just to get opinions. But the way you are carrying on I think putting the rest of the messages on here is a great idea.
If I'm being called a stirrer, a bitch and accused of all sorts of nastiness then I might as well live up to that!

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I neeeed to know what's happening on the WhatsApp thread. Has anyone called out Crazy Mum for her insanity? Did anyone express doubts about the surprise to begin with? Have you taken all the heat off the crazy lady OP?

Why do I doubt anyone who has been unlucky enough to have dealings with you would believe this?

@MondayblueFridayyellow I do think you have behaved in a classic 'wide-eyed stirrer' manner, possibly even in the hope of being responsible for the 2023 version of the lemon drizzle saga (yes, I've been here a very long time). I also think you have done something unpleasant and very ill-advised. However, I have not called you a bitch.

FWIW, I haven't got a clue who you are, and my children were at prep school long before Whats App was invented (thank God). I wouldn't automatically assume that everyone who thinks you have behaved in a shitty way is part of your Whatsapp group.

Why are people having a go at the OP. She’s on a parenting website talking about some awful parenting she’s experienced. This is what we’re all here for.

@MondayblueFridayyellow

If I'm being called a stirrer, a bitch and accused of all sorts of nastiness then I might as well live up to that

Go for it. Plenty of us here cheering you in and willing to hold your virtual coat for you.

Yes, multiple times for the entire school. Had our biggest school event of the year which had taken so much work cancelled because of flooding the day of it, had my own year 6's leaving party (which I'd organised, but not OTT organised. Just hall disco, props, and a home made buffet) cancelled 3 times due to covid. At no point what so ever was I heartbroken. Disappointed, yes. I also never considered bullying a child by naming and shaming them or guilted others.