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Some of the parents in our children's class have very kindly organised a surprise leaving party for the year 6 children.
The 'surprise' has unfortunately been leaked by one of the children. One of the mothers has sent a message to the whatsapp group (please see below. I have changed the names)
Do you think this message is a bit over the top? I feel for whoever's child it is as they will now be picked on.

The Message:

Evening all I have some very upsetting and heartbreaking news to share with you. 😢💔

It’s come to my attention there a couple of children who have access to this and the other PARENT group chat and have spoiled the surprise. Especially one child in particular I know who the child is and feel like naming and shaming!
They have shared all the information from the day of the party, time, what’s happening there and the hoodies.
They have even shared the sizes and colours to the children and that is sensitive information.

Myself, Parent 1, Parent 2, Parent 3 have all worked incredibly hard over the past few months from calling venues, DJ’s booking things and surprises.
We also all work full time have so much going on in our personal lives and it hasn’t been easy.
To say the least I’m extremely hurt by this as we have even kept all of this away from our own children. It really feels like a kick in the stomach. It’s been so stressful and now I personally am fuming all hard work has been wasted.
Parent groups are for parents and there are other conversations on the groups that aren’t for children’s eyes or ears.
We have expressed time after time this is a surprise and that our children do not know.

The jumpers have been a nightmare amongst other things going backwards and forwards to suppliers etc.

I really really hope the person that has done this is ashamed of themselves and comes clean to the parents and apologises!

For me the excitement has gone and if this information had come out even a week ago no would have cancelled the whole thing.

The school haven’t taken on the stress of organising any of it and we stepped up if it wasn’t for us the kids would just be having that one last thing together at flip out and nothing else.

I’m sorry to rant but I hope you can all understand how hurt we are feeling.

💔💔💔

Like every other thread on here?

She hasn't.

She keeps claiming she doesn't know how.

Managed to name change though, didn't she?

splutter 😂😂😂

Your children will likely indirectly end up on the receiving end of you putting this on Mumsnet.

How would anyone know who the OP's child or children are? Presumably there are at least 30 if not 60 or 90 sets of parents on this WhatsApp chat, so unless the OP has gone on the chat, linked to this thread and gone "look, I posted your message on mn and we all think you're ott" then I think OP and her children are probably safe...
(Though I am now picturing Myself Mum forming a subcommittee to try and determine who the OP is... Perhaps discovering hidden detective talents and a thirst for the truth in the process, which has the makings of a light-hearted detective series... "The Detectives and Myself" perhaps)

Op please don’t get this deleted. The party organiser sounds crazy. I’m sure the children will have much more fun looking forward to the party so they can get themselves ready. I expect a message just popped up a phone when a child was looking at it. If the organiser reads this in a newspaper maybe she’ll have a look at her own behaviour.

Yes, OTT maybe, but it think maybe unfair of you to comment unless you’ve taken a turn doing the organisation. If this woman has been the one left carrying the lions share of the work from reception to year 6 while the rest of you sit back a bitch I can see why she would feel hard done to.

Also I get an 11 year old child sharing party details out of excitement, but at 11 they should know sharing personal details about the size of their class mates, is gossipy at best and possibly bullying if that information was used to mock another child.

Oh I missed that somehow 💀💀

Makes me glad I don't have children

DD2 left primary in lock down - so zero end of primary organised stuff. Us parents were the upset ones I kept trying to organise within the rules events. DD told me it was fine and to not bother. We all went to the local cricket pitch and the kids mucked about while we had wine. That was it. They all said it was more fun than a fancy planned event.

Telling the OP that it was a mistake to post the full Whatsapp message is hardly targeting her. The Whatsapp mother was being completely ridiculous, but encouraging people to humiliate her publicly is pretty low. Some of the individual responses are quite funny, but the whole thing is pretty horrible.

Me too. What to?

I'm saying the OP managed to name change just to post this thread, but apparently she's not been able to find the report button in 5 hours.

there's nothing identifying though.

People who are received the message are likely laughing about it and sharing it with friends

anyone else doesn't have a clue who it could be.

Is it likely a bunch of 10-11 years old are going to flood social media in tears because someone shared their preferred hoodie colour?

My favourite comment 🤣

The woman who wrote that WhatsApp message sounds completely unhinged. All this over an fking kids party?! Get a life… And someone who gets so upset she writes “Especially one child in particular I know who the child is and feel like naming and shaming!” is fair game in my opinion.

She’s a bully and encouraging a child to be bullied, no matter what effort she’s gone too. Stop defending her on this GLORIOUS classic thread!!

@TheaBrandt a much better way of marking the end of junior school I think.

The MN scarf (from ages ago) long, floaty, leopard print. A bit like a secret handshake used to attempt to identify other MNers. Was always a bit mythical, I think.

I think within the school chat circle this woman has managed to humiliate herself and worse still her poor dc!

Good point

OP knows how to name change but I don't know how to get it deleted.

sure 😂

Respond "just for clarity, how should we shame this child? Stocks? Some kind of placard?"

I think very unrealistic to have expected it to have stayed a secret.

😂😂😂

@Clutchy I concur!

Some mum is going to be on the wine tonight and post something on that WhatsApp group 🤣

I wouldn’t stick up for her. Fair enough she organised it but the way she spoke about the child is creepy af! I’d be livid if it was mine

Just report it. I ve never reported my own threads so don't know how to.

You are clearly really othered by this thread so report it yourself.