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Some of the parents in our children's class have very kindly organised a surprise leaving party for the year 6 children.
The 'surprise' has unfortunately been leaked by one of the children. One of the mothers has sent a message to the whatsapp group (please see below. I have changed the names)
Do you think this message is a bit over the top? I feel for whoever's child it is as they will now be picked on.

The Message:

Evening all I have some very upsetting and heartbreaking news to share with you. 😢💔

It’s come to my attention there a couple of children who have access to this and the other PARENT group chat and have spoiled the surprise. Especially one child in particular I know who the child is and feel like naming and shaming!
They have shared all the information from the day of the party, time, what’s happening there and the hoodies.
They have even shared the sizes and colours to the children and that is sensitive information.

Myself, Parent 1, Parent 2, Parent 3 have all worked incredibly hard over the past few months from calling venues, DJ’s booking things and surprises.
We also all work full time have so much going on in our personal lives and it hasn’t been easy.
To say the least I’m extremely hurt by this as we have even kept all of this away from our own children. It really feels like a kick in the stomach. It’s been so stressful and now I personally am fuming all hard work has been wasted.
Parent groups are for parents and there are other conversations on the groups that aren’t for children’s eyes or ears.
We have expressed time after time this is a surprise and that our children do not know.

The jumpers have been a nightmare amongst other things going backwards and forwards to suppliers etc.

I really really hope the person that has done this is ashamed of themselves and comes clean to the parents and apologises!

For me the excitement has gone and if this information had come out even a week ago no would have cancelled the whole thing.

The school haven’t taken on the stress of organising any of it and we stepped up if it wasn’t for us the kids would just be having that one last thing together at flip out and nothing else.

I’m sorry to rant but I hope you can all understand how hurt we are feeling.

💔💔💔

Because its total nonsense.
Hiw would that play out?

Hi guys, I saw a message on my mums phone that you're getting hoodies and I made a list of all your colours and sizes?

Behave

The woman has over egged it to make it far more serious than it actually was - a slip of the tongue by a parent.

Well I have laughed out loud and scared the dog…she has gone outside and it’s pissing down ! That’s how loud I have laughed😂

The kid has got onto the group on parent's phone, read about the hoodies, found the parents of a couple of his/her mates and checked what size and colour they are getting. It'll be like 2 or 3 kids, not the whole year group.

A lot of young people have body image issues and would be mortified if anybody knew their dress size.

Just share this thread to the WA group, remove yourself and run 😂

Wow you sound fun 🙈

I like pineapple, my friend doesnt.

Sorry, I thought we were talking ahout utterly irrelevant things.

No they didnt.

Not a chance.

Il believe they spilled about the hoodies and party, but not a chance did they discuss the sizes.

Where can I find the classic threads?

Even if the kids now know, surely that will just increase the excitement knowing a special event is happening. It wont have spoiled the event for the kids. Just the parents who wanted to see the surprise on their faces, the kids will love it no less just because they know about it.

Awww I feel a bit sorry for her!

I think this kind of highlights what can go wrong when you go ALL OUT for what should be notable but not hugely OTT milestones. I left primary in 2001, we had a final assembly then picnic on the playing field. It was a gorgeous sunny day and I remember all of us charging around with water pistols and god knows what until the early evening, some of the parents got on the beers happy memories…

When you hype something up and make elaborate plans it leaves a lot of room for disappointment and anticlimaxes. I wonder if simpler, smaller plans are better because the pressure is off and people are more relaxed. There’s a constant need to outdo everyone else and I’m not sure it’s healthy to be honest.

@1987syderrs glad I made you laugh so much 🤣

It seems the mothers who organise the Yr 6 leavers party can be very very precious. I stepped up and organised the one for my eldest as no one else would. Cheap & cheerful in village hall, kids buffet and disco. Was really great fun to organise and I bought loads of tat from China for the home made photo booth type thing a Dad was going to do. And then covid hit and it was cancelled. Rearranged three times before we all realised we should just give up! It was disappointing. It was not heartbreaking, and I personally took the financial hit for everything I'd been buying ready for it. No big deal.

My others son's was a nightmare of overly precious mothers "giving their everything" for this one event. Some of us had spent 6 bloody years on the PTA doing multiple events a year. Organising one event is not all that love!!

There are also many kids who would HATE having a surprise like that thrown on them. Where is she showing any level of understanding of the neurodivergent kids? Kids need to be prepared for things. And the planning the outfits, the talking about it, the build up is all part of the fun.

The big point your precious year Mum seems to be missing - the party is for the KIDS. The party is not for her. Her saying "For me the excitement has gone" says it all really. The excitement has gone for HER. A grown effing woman.

Where is she showing any level of understanding of the neurodivergent kids?

Up to their parents surely, not the organiser?

And she was going to cancel it all because something happened that didn't suit her!

An 11 year old bully who has been awful to an overweight classmate? Yeah, she’d use that intel to be nasty for sure

Also. In a world of strict Information Sharing rules, why was this mother sharing the hoody sizes with everyone on the group? You collect them on a form and do not share other peoples information with a whole group without express permission from every parent to do so.

I would point out that she was breaking GDPR regulations in doing so.

We're back on the hoodies 😆

oh OP I don;t know why anyone has given you a hard time. This parent wants to 'name and shame' an 11 year old! The excitement has gone? It isn't about her or parent 2 or parent 3. Its about the children. They will have just a much fun knowing a few days early. So what? People need to get over themselves. I hate all this kind of school stuff, I am almost out of it all now. Thank god. Parents like this are why I ran in and out of school pick up most days. They're too intense.

Do you like fermented cabbage per chance…? 👀

Jesus fucking Christ, talk about dramatic! A bit disappointing maybe, but she's writing as if a death has occurred FGS 🤣🤣

oh this is spot on

Why do people keep making up kids, seriously?!

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me too from TW!

And implying that hoodie sizes are a like crack for a bully!?