Roll your eyes at the drama!

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Some of the parents in our children's class have very kindly organised a surprise leaving party for the year 6 children.
The 'surprise' has unfortunately been leaked by one of the children. One of the mothers has sent a message to the whatsapp group (please see below. I have changed the names)
Do you think this message is a bit over the top? I feel for whoever's child it is as they will now be picked on.

The Message:

Evening all I have some very upsetting and heartbreaking news to share with you. 😢💔

It’s come to my attention there a couple of children who have access to this and the other PARENT group chat and have spoiled the surprise. Especially one child in particular I know who the child is and feel like naming and shaming!
They have shared all the information from the day of the party, time, what’s happening there and the hoodies.
They have even shared the sizes and colours to the children and that is sensitive information.

Myself, Parent 1, Parent 2, Parent 3 have all worked incredibly hard over the past few months from calling venues, DJ’s booking things and surprises.
We also all work full time have so much going on in our personal lives and it hasn’t been easy.
To say the least I’m extremely hurt by this as we have even kept all of this away from our own children. It really feels like a kick in the stomach. It’s been so stressful and now I personally am fuming all hard work has been wasted.
Parent groups are for parents and there are other conversations on the groups that aren’t for children’s eyes or ears.
We have expressed time after time this is a surprise and that our children do not know.

The jumpers have been a nightmare amongst other things going backwards and forwards to suppliers etc.

I really really hope the person that has done this is ashamed of themselves and comes clean to the parents and apologises!

For me the excitement has gone and if this information had come out even a week ago no would have cancelled the whole thing.

The school haven’t taken on the stress of organising any of it and we stepped up if it wasn’t for us the kids would just be having that one last thing together at flip out and nothing else.

I’m sorry to rant but I hope you can all understand how hurt we are feeling.

💔💔💔

Oh dear OP, quick get yourself on whatsapp and rule yourself out as the offender - say how disgusted and horrified you are that some mean spirited and malicious child has let the cat out the bag and how truly awful you feel for all the incredible hard work 'upset and heartbroken' has put into this fantastic event.

Insanity! The school are not obliged to arrange anything although some do leavers' parties/parades etc. If a group of parents want to organise an event that's up to them. However, expecting everyone to keep things a surprise and being 'devastated' is ridiculous.
It's a lovely thing to do, the kids will doubtless enjoy it but it is worth mentioning that some children (particularly NT) do not like surprises. They like to know what is happening.
Why you'd consider sizes and colours of hoodies as sensitive information is just madness.

So over the top, as if the kids will care that much that the surprise is ruined. She needs to get a grip!

My heart breaks over the fact that if it wasn’t for the party the poor darlings would only have a flip out party!!!! Stuff like this make me so grateful my kid’s school doesn’t have a PTA. It’s a very poor area and we are all just happy with the school disco one of the teachers does for year 6!

Is this Portsmouth by any chance?

Absolutely brilliant!

Yes, the message writer is a bit OTT, but it sounds as if she put a lot of time and effort into this to create a memorable experience for all the children, including those of parents who never contribute anything.

She has a point that if parents are sharing information and thoughts on the group with the understanding that only other parents are reading, group members should not be allowing their children to access it. My guess is the desire to name and shame is at least as much frustration with the lax parent as with the child.

I agree that the OP is very mean spirited and only posted the entire message here because getting others to make fun of the message writer with her - which purpose she explicitly states in her title - makes her feel better about herself.

OP, maybe put in some hard work yourself and do something positive for others if you want to feel good about yourself rather than lazily tearing down someone who undoubtedly does more good than you.

OP this has made my day 😭😭😭😭

Snitches get stiches

I am LOVING this thread!

What, as in a classified document at MI5 sort of way?

Heartbreaking? My kid buried their Nan a few months ago that sad for them but I can't imagine they would be 'heartbroken' over hearing someone is throwing them a party.

It seems to be entirely about the mam wanting a 'moment' not the kids. Also how did they expect the kids not to find out? I found out Santa wasn't real in reception because one parent told their kid, you can't force approx. 60+ parents to all believe what you say goes.

I have a tiny bit of sympathy for her as a former PTA Chair! Organising something like this takes up sooo much time, only for the parents to still complain about minor details but never bloody offer to help. Worst 7 years of my life.

I can understand her frustration and I might have sent a similar message, but probably more swear words and less of the heartbroken stuff!

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Someone love being a drama queen 🙄🙄🙄

It's ott but I'd be annoyed if parents were letting their DCs read the parents' WhatsApp. Then letting them spoil the surprise which presumably their parent has done bugger all towards organising.

Not really, being overweight is obvious to anyone with eyesight so won’t come as a shock to anyone if someone is an xl

Of course. It’s a minefield. How did the organiser know all the sizes tho? Or did she just guess by looking at the weight and height of the kid?

Absolutely this.

Goodness me...ridiculous! Nothing has been spoilt and certainly not heartbreaking!

OP your title is ‘roll your eyes at the drama’. I think that very clearly shows your intention and it’s disingenuous to say otherwise.

The idea that an adult is badmouthing a child over what could have been a genuine mistake or misjudgement is appalling. They are a child for god’s sake. In all honesty I would be telling the Head about this.

I'd roll my eyes to high heavens at that message.

She needs to get a grip. It's a child fgs. And if she didn't want to organise the party, she shouldn't have done. Throwing it back in people's faces is poor spirited.

OP - you've done nothing wrong. You won't be the only one thinking she's majorly OTT.