To be coming round to the idea of another baby.

[SpringHexagon]

I currently have a 16 month old daughter, and to be totally honest the plan was that she would be an only child. This decision was my choice, my partner would be happy to have another baby but was also happy to give everything we have to our little girl.
My reasons for not having anymore originally were:

• Being scared I pick a favourite 😂 I know it's ridiculous.
• The difficulties of travelling with two kids (we have a dog that takes up our whole car boot so 2 car seats won't leave much space for anything else).
• The cost of doing things as a family of 4 (day trips and holidays etc.
• Our current house not being big enough so having to move (suppose not an issue in itself really).
• Not particularly wanting to be pregnant 😂 god it was awful and I'll never take for granted being able to reach my feet!

But despite all this, I look at my little girl now and can't help but picture her in a few years, playing with a little sister (or brother). It would change our lives so much, probably more than I can contemplate, but it's like I can't get the thought out of my mind. If we did try for another baby it wouldn't be until after April (trying to get timings right with free 30 hours of childcare for our daughters nursery) so would be at least 2 years in between daughter and new baby.

Aibu unreasonable to feel I should have another, with all the reasons I used to have for not having another? I love my daughter so much, it's a love I could never have imagined.

There’s nothing quite like seeing your kids play together, good aground, cuddle and kiss. Go for it!

We're expecting a second, planning to get a roof box for the car. Our dog is small though so we can fit a buggy in the boot with him...

Pretty sure my parents thought that. In reality my sister and I fought almost constantly and only when I moved out did we start to have a reasonable relationship.

I do have a small buggy folder in the boot that my dog can fit in with, roof box is brilliant idea though, I like that. Thank you. And congratulations!

This worries me too, that the kids don't get along 😂 I have brothers that don't get on, although they were older by the time that started.

I am the oldest of 3. I am female and have 2 brothers. I would have loved to be an only child.

I had a similar thought process to you, I had DD1 with the plan of having an only, but it was only when she was older that I really considered having a DC2, and a large part of it was that picture of her playing with and interacting with a sibling. We ended up with a 3.5y age gap which has been brilliant for allowing DD1 to develop independence before DC2 arrived and giving individual time to DD2. They get on really well, though it's hard managing their needs when I have them on their own (easier when DH is around at weekends as we can tag team).

Most of your reasons not to have a second don't really apply to our family, but I think in general you just learn to adapt and yes, you'll probably need a bigger car/house. We've moved to a much bigger house and life is getting more expensive (not much yet as DD1 still gets in free to a lot of places.)