Every thing going wrong at once

[WaspLady]

the last month has felt like a massive never ending disaster and I don’t know why things won’t stop going wrong. Is it unreasonable to think that this must be my fault and I should be able to do something to make it stop. I don’t know anyone else who this many disasters.
the disaster have included
developing a stress fracture in my ankle
a mishap/accident at work while I was supervising.
car breaking down at side of the road
dd spending 3 days in hospital with an asthma attack
dog getting really unwell and needing surgery
Yesterday washing machine died and now without a washing machine.
today hit a pole in a car park and caused a huge amount of damage to my car.

I feel like getting into bed and never getting out again, I’m just sick of dealing with the constant stress of all these situations. How can I make it stop?!

Is it unreasonable to think that this must be my fault and I should be able to do something to make it stop

Of course it is! It’s not your fault. These things are either accidents or just bad luck. You couldn’t control it any more than you could control the weather. It’s just life. You go months and months with no bones breaking, no car accidents, no problems at work, etc. so sometimes some crap has to happen just to balance stuff out. The good news is that it’s not forever and this time next year, you’ll have forgotten all about that terrible couple of months where everything went wrong.

there is no law of nature which dictates disasters must be evenly spaced! Sounds like you've had a really rough time recently - I hope you are ok, and sailing for calmer waters now

Negative events are not evenly spread through your life, nor are they spread evenly between different people.

Bad events lead to further bad events. If something bad happens to you, it's more likely something else bad will happen soon. The reverse is sometimes true in that good fortune often leads to more good fortune.

This is why some people seem to bounce from disaster to disaster and others always seem to get lucky in life.

It's a lot easier to get trapped in the negative rut than it is to stay in the positive one. It's easier to go down than go up.

A practical example: two people with identical jobs and income buy two identical houses at the same time. One gets lucky and the house doesn't need major repairs. The other has bought a lemon and there's always something going wrong, something breaking, something to sap their happiness and drain their money. This is how some get lucky and others unlucky.

After a few years of this the unlucky person has less money because they've spent it all on maintenance. The lucky person has money to spare so they can improve their own home, reducing the future maintenance costs. So the unlucky one is in a rundown house with no money and is fed up, the lucky one is always ahead of the curve, can save and invest. This is how good or bad luck leads to more good or bad luck.