To find it annoying being "left on read"

[finewelshcheese]

Trying to sort things out for a work project that involves dealing with members of the public.

They're all people who've agreed to be involved and I appreciate that they all have their own lives going on, but I'm texting people things that require just a yes/no/thumbs up (I need to know in order to move on) I tend to text rather than ring because people are at work - if I text them they can deal with it at lunch or whatever.

If someone doesn't read the message, fine, I assume they're unavailable and will get it later. But it really riles me when they've gone to the trouble of picking their phone up, reading the message and then decided not to bother with an answer! Is it just me? It takes seconds to answer 🤷🏼‍♀️

Answering may take a second, but deciding may take longer. I obviously don't know what type of things you're asking, but I personally hate making any kind of decisions on the move, I really prefer to have some quite to be able to think about it, even if it seems small or inconsequental.

Turn off your blue ticks. This way you won't have access to the info and will no longer be as annoyed

The way I see it is that other people don't have immediate access to my time just because at that moment in time they decide to pop into my phone.

I might glance at my phone and open the message just before I get into the car and not want to reply until after the journey. My time is my own, it does not belong to anyone who deigns to text me. Not sure why it is reasonable to expect immediate replies? Of course being left for days is not OK! But reading and choosing to reply later is a sign of having good boundaries I'm my opinion.

It only takes a second if they know the answer.

If you ask me if I’m available for something (for instance), I might need to check childcare/ work/ DH plans first - and then of course think about whether I really want to do it.

Perhaps say ‘let me know by 3pm if you can, otherwise I’ll assume not’ or something if it’s holding you up.

It's nothing that requires deliberation. Things like "how old are you?"

I might glance at my phone and open the message just before I get into the car and not want to reply until after the journey.

Fair point

Just ring them then!

Sometimes I am so busy I cannot actually deal with even responding because I am trying to drive, be in a meeting on speakerphone and consider the 432 things I need to do today. Pulling over to text and tell you how old I am can wait and is low on my list of priorities. If it is super urgent sure I will alter my plan for the next 30 seconds to stop and text you but otherwise by the time I have read it and seen it’s not life or death I may have had 3 other things presented to me that I need to sort out right now

If it's urgent pick up the phone.

Texting is asynchronous conversation-they can reply when they are ready. I hate the expectation I have to reply immediately