Husband and nighttime noises.

[TheBlinkOfAnEye]

My husband starts making noises in his sleep from about 5am, give or take half an hour. I can't deal with this any longer. Usually we turn out the light about 11pm after watching TV together. Would it be unreasonable if I started going to sleep at 9pm so I can just get up at 5am when he starts keeping me awake anyway? This might disturb him a bit but he can go back to sleep. I don't have young kids so can set my sleep schedule how I want. He told me this morning he can't do anything to stop it so it's down to me to come up with a solution to myself. I can't wear earplugs. He had a sleep study done several years ago and came back clear.

What sort of noises? Do you have a spare room so if you get up in the night to pee or get some water, just spend the second half of the night in there?

Why would you disturb him at 5am?

He sometimes snores, but lately it's been a very loud blowing air with a loud popping sound from his lips. I start to drift off and every breath jolts me out of it. We have a spare room but it's my husband's office. I could put a bed in there but I'd have to buy one. He wants to put a small pool table in there at some stage, but he couldn't do that if I put a bed in there. It's big enough for a bed and his desk, but nothing else. I don't really want to leave my room but I guess if I'm the one with the problem, I might have to get used to the idea.

We usually have an alarm for 6.45am. If I'm getting up at 5am, he'll probably be disturbed that someone in the house is up and that will interfere with his sleep.

But he's the one with the problem. You're just suffering the consequences.

He doesn't sound very caring, OP.

I think he does care. He went and had a sleep study done. He's tried snoring clips for his nose. He's just not sure what he can do about the mouth noises.

I've priced a single bed so will discuss it with him. Not cheap. I've tried to keep that space free for his table but some needs might be more pressing.

We have separate rooms, it’s bliss.

He told me this morning he can't do anything to stop it so it's down to me to come up with a solution to myself.

This does not sound caring at all. He's not taking any responsibility for the effect his noises are having on your sleep. He could look into what further studies/solutions are possible.

Meanwhile, I hope he takes the bed in the office.

I don't want to punish him for something he can't help though. He could try a mouth guard, but then maybe he'll snore instead. Maybe if I ask him to sleep in his office a solution will be found. I am sure he would accept that. Separate rooms is probably better for my marriage than adjusting my sleep schedule so we don't spend much evening time together.

It might just come to that!

My husband snores & blows air through his teeth. I can hear my cats cleaning and we live under a flight path.
Thank goodness for ear plugs or I'd never get any sleep.
Honestly earplugs are your friend. Give them a try.

Your husband needs to buy the bed and sleep in his office.

If I have ear plugs I won't be able to hear the kids or dogs in the night, if they need me. DH will sleep through their noise in the night.

DH and I love sleeping beside each other. But we also have a spare single bed ready in another room if one is woken by the other and can't sleep. It makes a huge difference.

We have completely joint finances, so it makes no real difference who buys the bed. I have priced a couple, so will discuss it with him. I'll ask him to sleep in the office until he sorts something out, but I feel very guilty for kicking him out of our bed.

I'm feeling increasingly sold on the other bed solution. Thanks.

"Punish"? Where did that come from? It's about finding solutions.

It's an age thing. DH has taken to puffing and blowing, when he's not busy snoring!
I go next door.

Omg dh does the popping noise and its so Infuriating when trying to sleep 😴 we sleep separately now, so much better all round!

Could be! He's well into middle age now. He's very fit though.

I cannot tell you how much better I feel hearing that other husband's do this too (though sorry they do!). I just wanted to cry this morning. I just said we had to do something about it and he said he didn't know how to stop it. I didn't want to push too hard though because I don't think he slept well himself last night. Looks like the separate sleeping arrangements is the most common solution.

How old are the kids?

Omg, my husband does this when he wakes up and it’s infuriating. Like he’s holding his breath then popping it out, but he’s awake when he does it. Between that and the insane snoring I’m pushing for separate rooms, if not houses.

He says oh, boo hoo, he doesn't know how to stop it!

That is infuriating. If he can't stop it, he needs to sort himself another sleeping arrangement. Not just shrug and let you bear the brunt.

Urghhh I feel your pain. OH does a tiny pop on breathing out, but it somehow sounds JUST like a drip of water. The first time he started doing it I actually got up into the attic just gone midnight because I assumed the historical leaky roof had returned. Couldn't figure out how I couldn't hear the dripping once I was up in the roof space. Came down, he woke up with me clanging the ladder about so no pop/drip. Just got comfy back in bed and dripping started again. Back into attic with torch. This went on for about 3 hours before I realised it was him and his bizarre popping snore thing. Grrrr!! 😡