I met a very kind, professional, well regarded (in the wider community), man, back in 2015. We dated a while before moving in, talked extensively about a family. Looking back he could be selfish now and then but I didn’t think it was anything extreme. I honestly thought we had such a loving, honest, happy relationship. When I became pregnant, by the time of the birth he had completely abandoned me. Said he actually didn’t think he could be a dad when we left the five month sex scan and proceeded to ignore my calls after the birth, making me go through cms for maintenance (and in the process asking for a dna test before paying!!). He’s never been involved with our daughter and lives alone but apparently dates regularly. He’s still a quiet man who people think is really decent. I honestly don’t think anyone would think he was capable of what he did and so brutally. I’ve since got married and I’m very happy but the entire experience made me realise you really don’t ever know anyone properly. I don’t think therapy or anything else can protect you from some people.