Wedding Anniversary Wishes

[FlipFlop1987]

Is it still (ever?) tradition to acknowledge close family wedding anniversaries? Would you send a card or well wishes to your loved ones on the anniversary or is it solely for the couple?
My side of the family (parents and sibling) send a card and well wishes on the day and offer to babysit to allow the couple to have a meal out. My DH’s parents and sibling don’t acknowledge it, I don’t think they would even know the date if asked, it’s only been 4 years since we married.
I’m not offended as they show little happiness and support for us in general, I’m more curious if this is just their ways or if it’s a waning tradition now as so many choose not to marry and it’s my family who are unusual in sending cards/well-wishes still.

Tradition is waning.

You say you arent bothered by DHs parents but you have started a thread and he hasnt.

He might not care enough to take it up with them or to send them a card on their anniversary.

DH's grandparents got us a card for our first anniversary but that's it. I've never sent any to other couples either.

As for the hypothetical, no I don't acknowledge those anniversaries because they aren't mine. I wouldnt send a yearly "on your christening" card or "happy gotcha day" for the pets so i wouldnt for the wedding either.

I might for my own child on 1 year, 5 years, 10 years etc, but absolutely not yearly. Their wedding, their marriage, their anniversary.

Depends on the family culture I think. We're not big card people, other families send a card for every little occasion. I'd think a card on first anniversary would be nice, beyond that it's for the couple IMO (except big milestones - 10, 25, 35 etc). Given that you've said they aren't happy for you and don't support you, I suspect this thread is about more than a card.

Quick question @FlipFlop1987 - do you send your inlaws a card every year on their wedding anniversary?

My parents always send us one (with an enclosure!) but not the ILs. I think it's lovely if people do remember but I don't expect it unless it's something they usually do. I'm very close to my mum who I had a great time wedding planning with. It's over 20 years ago but she still marks the day. I always mark my parents' anniversary too, usually with a card and bottle of wine.

It’s a very strange relationship between in laws and DH, I think their upbringing would be considered emotionally distant now (not sure if it’s my place to say neglect). They are a very formal elderly couple and it’s a need to know basis, my DH has ADHD so dates are a nightmare with him (a whole other tale!) and personal information isn’t given freely by PIL. If we asked previously what date it was, they would say why do we want to know (they’re definitely married).
Probably a bit off topic, but bizarrely about 7 years ago they announced they were to have a 50th anniversary party, we were surprised but quite up for this as they don’t celebrate anything. This is how we found out the date finally. They mentioned a few basic plans about the party and then it went quiet, we assumed the social side of it wasn’t what they wanted in the end. Instead DH and I asked to take them for a meal, spent a fair amount on said meal, more than we have ever spent on our own celebratory meals, did a big card with 50th splashed across it, they then said after putting the card away “oh actually we got the wrong year it’s not our 50th anniversary this year.”
So possibly wedding anniversary’s aren’t really their thing however card’s definitely are! Birthday, Christmas, Thank You, Easter (none of us are religious) are all very formally sent in the post, sometimes a month in advance even if we see them the same day as the occasion (they live 15 minutes away), the card is always sent in the post without fail. Sometimes delivered by the postman whilst they are at our house.
So I was genuinely just asking if anniversaries are not really done anymore, as they are very strict about cards for every other occasion and being as formal as they are, seems odd it’s one to miss off the list. I don’t like to bring it up with DH as their support of him (and now us) has always been a sensitive subject.