To not do what mums Housinb are asking me to

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So I’ll try keep this short

mum is hoarder I haven’t been in house for 13 years or so she refused help etc
I kind of thought it was the same as it used to be! About a 3 on the scale
she won’t let Housinb in they now have a court order
mum is in hospital had a fall and now really unwell wotb other stuff on morphine so is not making much sense or able to follow a conversation coherently she can’t consent

housing want me to come tomorrow and let them in, but I don’t have consent for this
iv been to the property and it’s bad 10 x worse than I thought she can’t go back there althoigh she will fight her hardest to be able to do so
of I don’t go they will force entry change locks and then give me the key for her
they won’t be able to access electrics but will come back a week later. I don’t know why as I won’t be able to do it and she is in hospital

aibu for not being present and focusing on her health? I feel so unwell with this myself at the minute I don’t know what to do she is critically unwell

Also going in made me feel very unwell I don’t want to face it I feel physically sick with what I saw But at the same time she’s going to be so upset if anyone else togches her stuff

If they have a court order you don't need to give consent. Presumably they want you to give them access so they don't have to break in and then change the locks

I'd just let them get on with it

You should take this opportunity to clear out, meet them and let them in,opening a door isn't detracting from your mothers health. Trying to avoid taking some responsibility suggests you have some of your mothers tendencies.

They legally have to gain entry to the property for compliance checks, this would be the final port of call after months of sending contact letters, calls etc. If you don't feel up to it let them carry on and provide the new key.

They can and do evict for this. They have a duty and a responsibility to others and she is likely causing fire risks and hygiene problems.
They will already have a key.
They want you to be there so that you can see how bad things are and will hopefully get on side.
I hope your DM gets better soon.

Just make it easier all round by being at the house to meet them with a key instead of them having to break in which they will with a court order. This is your mothers doing not yours. It's way beyond getting your mother to agree to it now.

Just let them in, the house is not your fault and it’s not your responsibility, but dealing with this is part of your mothers health. Pretending the problem doesn’t exist doesn’t help anyone. They will just have to break the lock if you don’t, her consent isn’t needed at this point.