Frustrating DP

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DP is incapable of doing anything without me asking him to, e.g washing up, laundry etc.
It is so frustrating for me who carries the mental load of doing all this stuff and it creates friction between us as I have to keep checking he’s doing things and reminding him, like a micromanager!!!
Any tips or advice pls

Obviously yanbu to be frustrated but no one knows your DP so can only guess but this could be anything from laziness to a sign of poor executive functioning

No advice sorry as in the same boat.... when my husband saw me with my had down the toilet (obviously cleaning it) he was mortified..... seriously he thought ot just cleaned itself when flushed 🙄

Who did these things for him before you moved in together? Because if he did them himself, then he doesn't need telling, he's choosing to let you be in charge of it all.

@Mumof3girlygirls similar question - was his toilet not absolutely vile when you met him, if he didn't realise it needed cleaning??

Can you give him a list?

Don’t be daft, of course he can. He chooses not to because he thinks he’s too good to tidy up his own crap but you’re not so you can do it all.

Does he manage to hold down a job?

We've been together 21 years he lived with his parents before that ..... need I say more 😅

Instead of posting more than 1 thread about tips on how to make your boyfriend function on a bare minimum, basic level, why not just discard him? He’s clearly trash. You chose to have a kid with him, that kid needs your focus now, the shitty bloke can live somewhere else in his own filth, not your problem. Being in a relationship is solely for enhancing your life and making it fun.

This would drive me fucking potty. There's already a mental list of things to get on with around the house every day that men seem impervious to. I get pissed off enough to have to stop and start again because child needs her lunch making etc which she's perfectly capable of doing herself at the age of 11 - "but Mummy you're the only one who does it right" 🤬🤬🤬
Bugger men being a further contributing factor 🤬

This would drive me nuts. I hate it when people say 'oh, just write a list of all the things that needs to be done' like you're their secretary or assistant. It usually also leads to things being done terribly, e.g. only vacuuming the middle of the empty floor and not under the coffee table etc, so you have to give more instructions in increasing detail just to get a simple job done. Eventually you give up with the instructions and just do it yourself which I'm sure was their desired outcome in the first place!!

My husband recently told me he doesn't think towels need washing because "you only ever wipe clean water off your body with them" 🙄🙄. He also refers to them as 'self cleaning'