DD aged 9, Y4.
Doesn’t want to walk to school which is 200m from our front door and theres no point driving. She then doesn’t want to walk home from school and cries and sits on the floor
Doesn’t want to do their homework which is literally spelling and times table practise and not much else then complains when she gets 0/10 on them, she literally has an app to do both on provided by school.
She doesn’t want to do her out of school activities that she chose but doesn’t want me to stop paying – she chose to do Brownies and singing lessons. She doesn’t want to not go though. She won’t walk to the singing teachers house at the end of our road (closer than school) or to get in the car to go to Brownies but is fine at both once there and always comes out happy.
She wants to go on pack holiday for a week at October half term but doesn’t want to help them fundraise the money they need to get themselves – some of the girls are doing bag packing in the local Morrisons, others are helping their neighbours with walking dogs or feeding pets over the summer. They have to fundraise to go, then the parents pay the remaining money after the fundraising has been completed, if it is all completely raised by funds then parents just donate bits of food (if they want). But DD is refusing to fundraise, but still thinks she should be able to go.
She doesn’t want to go to the holiday club she chose. I’ve offered alternatives but she keeps saying she doesn’t want to go and wants to stay at home. She needs to go twice a week for all 6 weeks, the other days will be a mixture of days out she’s helped me pick and we can do the fundraising for Brownies - her great grandparents have said if she pops in each week for the entire holidays and helps them with their pets or small jobs around the house like putting their washing on the line etc, they’ll give her all of the amount to cover her place, plus our neighbours will give her £2-3 if she helps with getting stuff in from the car to their house or similar – literally Brownies are not expecting the girls to go out and get jobs or do anything beyond their skill set/age or she could earn it through pocket money from me was another suggestion by Brown Owl, basically they want the girls to “earn” it themselves. But it’s met with arguing and telling me she’s going whether she raises the money or not.
She doesn't want to go to bed at 8pm, thats ever so early (about on par with her classmates from talking to the other mums there, they go to bed between 7.30 and 8.30pm depending on activities). Then she doesn't want to get up the next morning.
I am tired from constant arguments. Her constantly telling me to just give her the money and she’ll say she helped her grandparents. She tells me that she will refuse to go to holiday club or make herself sick so she can stay home. When I tell her I have to work so she’ll have to go to my mums/great grannys for the day and will lose a day out if she deliberately makes herself ill so I lose money paid for holiday club she just grunts and says lifes not fair. I know she’ll be fine once she gets to holiday club like she has been each of the last 4 summers she’s been (not all this one, she chooses which she wants to do and when, and I book it so she can say to her friends “I’m going on this day to here” and they can arrange to be there to, and they will be)
Behaviour at school is brilliant, her dad has no issues with her when she goes there once a month, Brownies adore her, her singing teacher keeps saying she’s ready for the next grade exam (another thing she doesn’t want to do) so I don’t feel I can complain. But I am so tired of it.
Anyone else? Is it just end of academic year fatigue? Preteens in general? Puberty?