Offered to buy DH a MacBook and he's annoyed

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I offered to buy my DH a new MacBook - he's had his current one for 10 years and it's a bit slow.

My budget is £1250 and there are plenty of MacBooks online for this price.

We've just had an argument because he wants a better one at £1600.

He had no intention of buying it for himself and can't afford it. I came into some money recently and wanted to do something nice for him. I feel like it's just been thrown back in my face. He's always complaining about his laptop and how slow it is.

Aibu?

Will you be splitting your inheritance 50/50 with him?

I've just seen your update. he thinks the less expensive model isn't as safe as the more expensive one and doesnt want to his bank account to become vulnerable. So this is just a misunderstanding. I wouldn't say he was ungreatful. Maybe he can speak to someone who works at apple to talk about his worries. They can then say if the laptop is as safe or not and then maybe he will be ok with it

What are you struggling with?

The OP is unclear about whether he can't afford the whole thing or he can't afford to make up the difference. The context suggests the former but I can't be sure.

Perhaps he can't afford the difference, in which case that's the answer to my question.

Does that explain things for you?

If by security he means he’s after the one with the taskbar and fingerprint recognition it ain’t all that.
I paid extra for mine, I find it gimmicky and more often than now I have to restart the taskbar as it won’t display my emojis.

that aside, does he have any redeeming features?

If he wants security, this one has Touch ID (it's the one I have and it's brilliant) and it's in budget.

www.very.co.uk/apple-macbook-pro-m1-2020-13-inch-with-8-core-cpu-and-8-core-gpu-256gb-storage-space-grey/1600533407.prd?_requestid=399672&Ntt=macbook%20touch%20bar

The £1250 one is exactly as secure as the £1600 one.

YABU. My ex bought me a Mac years ago. I needed one but the one he got me was shite. And then we had no money to buy me the laptop I wanted and needed for years after that. I still have that Mac in a drawer and it's just a reminder of what a twat my ex really was. Don't buy something just for the sake of it, it's shit.

@UpaladderwatchingTV how did you get it for under £1k

Yep. And when he moans about the old one, ignore.

OP, you say he wouldn't have bought the more expensive one and can't afford it. Do you actually mean he wouldn't have bought it because he can't afford it?

FFS offer him the more expensive and one and say he makes up the difference. If he's got 10 years out of the last one, he takes care of his devices.

Indeed. He clearly doesn’t understand security. Besides, his bank account should be secured by username, password and authentication, so that even if the computer is accessible to someone else his bank account isn’t. Unless he’s the kind of plank who writes his passwords down in a Word document and puts it on the desktop.

He does sound ungrateful and ignorant to boot - but why isn't it family money?

Forget about the sod.
He could have coughed up the extra 400 but instead felt agrieved. Leave him to use the public library.

He’s being ungrateful as he only wants it for YouTube and emails; the security on them is the same.

Sounds like it’s been worded incredibly wrong
but I’d sooner make do with what I’ve got than make do with something I don’t want

whilst it’s a massive amount of money when you break it down to something you’ve use everyday for 10years it’s good value

I'd offer £1250 towards what ever he wants

also look at apple website they do refurbished laptops full warranty I’ve had 2 no problems you’d never know there not new massive saving

Buy him a pair of socks instead. 😁

If he doesn't have £350 to make up the difference why is he so worried about the security of his bank account?

I don't suppose hackers are going to go all out for £349, he sounds like a child wanting the most expensive toy in the shop

Who says he needs the better spec?

Good point. 😂

So, if he split his inheritance with you 50:50, why aren't you splitting yours with him rather than just buying him a gift?

My dh once bought me a MacBook which I also reacted badly to for my birthday. It was under spec, despite being brand new it couldn’t install properly because the storage was too small for the amount of data I had.

I complained, he wasn’t too happy that I did. Ended up selling it after a short time when he agreed it was unusable, couldn’t update it due to lack of storage. Bought a new one.

So on this occasion, I agreed with him. Although I accept it’s a really difficult thing to bring up without upsetting the gifting person.

Lol, get him to explain why a £1600 MacBook is more secure than a £1200 one.... Tell us what he says 😂😂😂😂😂😂

He'll get better security anyway with a MacBook, they don't get more secure the more expensive they are.

That is so expensive, I know their stuff it beautiful but if he's using it just for YouTube and emails can't he just have an iPad?

Either way, this is an embarrassing way for a grown man to behave.