To ask for your examples of when you've wrongly judged a situation or person

[SundanceSeagull]

This happens to me a lot. I make judgements and form opinions about things I know nothing about, only to realise later down the line what a nob I've been.

I'm ashamed to say that one of those things was public breastfeeding. I always thought I was a supporter of it, but would say things like 'you can easily be more discreet' and 'why can't women use muslins and covers ' etc etc. I know, I know. Stupid and awful. Now I'm breastfeeding my first DC I realise what an absolute boob I was (pun intended). I've not got the time, inclination or energy to make sure I'm wearing discrete clothing or to suffocate him with a muslin. If he's hungry, he's going to be fed, bottom line. I won't deliberately parade my boobs about, but I won't go out of my way to hide in a corner. Oh what a fool I was to think otherwise.

What are some things you formed an opinion about only to find down the line you had it so wrong?

When I was very young and dumb, I worked with a slightly older guy who seemed lovely, funny guy who was devastated that his wife and mother of his children had left him. Saying she was a slut, money grabber and only wanted him to work himself to death.

Everyone at the office believed it and rallied around him as the injured party ect.

Months on he was absent from work. Everyone was v worried asking where "frank" was (not his actual name) he was at court for breaking several bones in his exs body and attacking his son with a hot iron.

The women hadn't been a gold digger, she was trying to escape a abusive man 🤯

So ashamed of this one tbh

Bit of an odd one, but if I ever meet charming men I always treat them with caution as I think they're trying to win me over and I wonder what they're hiding.

I'm sure the majority are genuinely nice but I've seen too many situations of "but he seemed such a nice guy..."

One was taking the piss out of people with hay fever. I wasn't being deliberately nasty but I would joke around and say it was ridiculous to be allergic to the air.

Guess who has hay fever now? And the first year I got it (early thirties) it hit me like a TRAIN. I couldn't have the windows open in my car or I couldn't breathe, I was constantly washing my hair, my clothes and my bedding, I couldn't wear any eye makeup without it streaming down my face and because I'm blonde I had to pay to have my eyelashes dyed, I even had to get a face mask wayyy before Covid and everyone looked at me like I was mad. True karma.

The other was a time I was working somewhere I was in charge of granting refunds. People would take the piss, so you had to be on guard and do calculations/assess their general behaviour before you believed them. This old lady called up and she said she'd been charged for something in error. A little bit bossy but really probably just standing up for herself. I quickly did some calculations and I told her straight she wouldn't be getting a refund. She then burst into tears and said in an extremely hurt voice, "Why don't you believe me? I'm not lying!" I just knew from her reaction that I'd made a mistake. I immediately said no I will refund you, we're not here as a company to make anyone cry. Gave her the money back and as soon as I got off the phone, I immediately burst into tears myself at making this poor old woman cry. I had to go and walk around the car park to calm down. It absolutely broke my heart. I learnt then to listen a bit harder before making a decision so quickly.