Is this a boring question?

[Bobski123]

I was seeing a group of schoolfriends, and some of their partners were there. One of them said he'd just been to the gym, I said, that's cool, which gym do you go to?
I asked as I also go and it's good to compare gyms.
Later on, the person I'd attended with laughed and said I ask boring questions and the gym example was one of them.
I don't see what's so bad about that, at least I was showing interest in the other person. Found it a bit harsh.

The other person is a dick.

It's a totally normal question to ask, along with training, food, goals anyone gym related is happy to chat about all of the above!

I'd just ignore the comment that's someone trying to put you down for whatever reason, calling someone boring is really harsh.

What a stupid comment, totally normal question. Even if you had no interest in gyms it’s making conversation about something another person has an interest in. I’d love to know what they think an interesting question is.

Whether it was 'boring' or not is rather subjective.

The 'person you attended' with was rude and trying to put you down.

Next time you go anywhere don't ask him/her and if he/she complains say 'Oh sorry. I was just trying to stop you having to be bored with my boring questions. I'm sure you can go with someone who isn't so boring', and walk off.

Better still just keep out of his/her way, he/she doesn't sound very nice.

The person sounds like a dick. They're trying to put you down. The question was totally normal and relevant.

No that’s not a boring question, the person you went with is horrible

Totally normal question, not 'boring' at all. The other person sounds like they are deliberately trying to put you down.

It’s a very normal question (but not in a boring way)! That’s quite standard small talk - you’re not going to be delving deep into their psyche at a casual meeting!

What a horrible person they are. Don't bother going with them again

Your question was fine.
The person who called it boring was mean.

Who is the person in relation to you and gym person? Maybe he/she fancies gym person and is jealous of your gym connection in common. Or maybe he/she is unfit and felt embarrassed not knowing anything about gym.

Thanks for your support, it was making me question myself. Exactly, what am I meant to ask? I don't know this friend's partner that well, I'm not going to start asking him about the meaning of life.

It’s completely normal to ask that kind of thing. Most people are happy to talk about what they do and where they go anyway. This person is clearly a twit I’d ignore them!!

The question was fine and normal. The person who said it was boring meant it was boring to THEM, while you and gymbro could have happily had a conversation - some people just cannot stand being left out of conversations or not being the centre of attention or having people talk about something they don't know about, or even have someone, especially if attractive, talk to their partner - those people are ALWAYS utter dicks.

Good you found out now what kind of person they are.

Totally normal small talk. The other person sounds weird.

Who said you ask boring questions? Not your boyfriend I hope because that'd be them dumped!

The other person is weird. Your question was perfectly fine - it's good manners to show an interest in others.

Horrible to try and undermine someone socially and make them feel insecure. It's often hard making overtures to strangers - small-talk, or whatever you want to call it - and to criticise someone for it shows meanness, I think.

Other person is a knob

I really hope the other person, who said your question is boring, isn't your current partner. This sort of disrespect is only usually seen in siblings until the age of 12/13 🚩🚩🚩🚩

Well firstly that wasn’t a boring question but even if it had been what that person said was nasty and unnecessary

Pretty standard question when someone mentions the gym, your friend is projecting. What was his/her amazing questions ?

First post summed it up really.

Ignore the person negging you.

You were making perfectly normal conversation/small talk.

The other person was being a dick. What do they want, straight into some sort of deep philosophical dialogue with strangers?

They just wanted to make you feel small. Don't let them.

There's nothing wrong with what you asked but quite honestly, I would've just laughed, said 'piss off' and got on with my day.

I certainly wouldn't be letting it get to me.

You engaged with someone who mentioned a common interest and furthered the conversation.

I see nothing wrong or boring about what you asked.

The person who said that to you is looking to make you feel nervous/anxious and your retort should have been along the lines of "Shut up, you silly little fool!"

That person sounds rude.

But if you want to be more interesting in conversations then give a little bit of yourself when you ask questions like that. Eg the part you explained to us, give that first; “What’s your gym like? I go to X and [insert how you find something about it]”. Look up conversation threading and they’ll explain it better than me!