Feel insecure about getting older

[Bobski123]

Which is sad, I know. I won't say what age I am because it's still considered relatively young and I'm sure people older will just say I'm being ridiculous. It's irrelevant, anyway.
My partner is 4 years younger and works with people who are mostly up to a decade younger than me, or at least 6-7 years younger.
I don't know why this makes me insecure, but it does. I know they all go on nights out together (it's in hospitality and I usually don't go as I'm up early for work, and it seems to be impromptu nights out)
I trust him but in the back of my mind I sometimes worry he'll think, well why am I with her when I could be with someone 10 years younger.
Also women of the age he works with are very unlikely to be looking for marriage and kids, usually more casual things, which may appeal to him.
I just get this feeling that my youth is fleeting and I'm leaving it behind, I look more tired than I used to.
I'm not sure how to stop feeling like this, it's a confidence thing I suppose.

I think the way you are feeling is very common. Especially for women. But you've got to find a way to come to terms with it because ageing is, of course, inevitable.

Also it seems to be focused on your relationship/ your partner. So maybe consider what it is about your relationship that is making your insecure. Is it him or is it you?

From a practical point of view, if your DP is only with you for your youth/looks then the relationship is going to end at some point. If he's also a big kid that doesn't want settle down then ditto. So, you've either got a keeper that loves you for you or not. You shouldn't live your life in fear.

Thank you. I think there are so many societal expectations about what women of my age 'should' be doing, i.e. setting down, having children etc. Which is sad that it's so ingrained into society.
You're right though, it's mainly women feeling this way which is not a surprise.
That's a good way to see it, if he left for someone younger than he's not a good person. Saying that, there are so many seemingly 'nice' men who do this all the time and then just happily move on with zero reprocussions.

I don't know why, I just feel insecure that he's going on nights out with all these much younger women. Even though I trust him, people's inhibitions are of course lowered when alcohol is involved.

My DH works in a female dominated profession and socialises with colleagues and even attends conferences where there're away for days staying in fancy hotels.
I trust him because he's a good guy.

My DH is older than me but looks very young for his age and is charming and funny so I know that other women find him attractive.

You either trust your partner or you don't.
Don't let let your insecurities ruin your relationship.