Barbecue two weeks ago, knew about half the people there and was hosted by my friend who is lovely. Her new boyfriend rocks up, pissed out of his skull. I did my best to keep out of his way but when I was in the kitchen sorting out the salad he came to talk to me. In the space of five minutes he told me he had been kicked out of the Labour Party and would deal drugs were it not for the fact he has two kids (from an earlier relationship) and didn’t want to go to prison. I didn’t want to know any of that or engage in a conversation with him… so I said: “Well not my kind of thing, let’s take the food outside.” And he just shouted “FUCK YOU!” and stormed away. He’s not put together I know that much so I didn’t get upset, people can be twats at times. But later in the evening he was really disgusting to everyone else there, lots of swearing and telling us he hated us, despite not knowing us, and two of us stayed the night in the house to make sure she was safe. I left very early because I had to get a train the next day and my friend who was left behind is brilliant and sensible and sent me a text saying: “Apparently he remembers nothing!” Bullshit obviously. They’re still together two weeks later and have adopted a dog (really?!) and I am trying to navigate how to support her without having anything to do with him. Our mutual friend is moving to Miami next week so I don’t have him to rely on, so I need a coping mechanism, without cutting her off. Hope this makes sense, because I am still reeling from how gross a person can be.