I have a sister in law (husbands side) and there always seems to be competition? She met her husband (my husbands brother) the same year I met mine. You would think that would have made us stick together and become closer meeting the family at the same time, It didn't. Me and my DH decided to start a family but unfortunately we had a miscarriage, we had quite a few. The last was the worst I was 11 weeks pregnant and that happened at home it was quite traumatising. One month to the day of that happening my SIL and BIL came to my home to tell us they were 5 weeks pregnant. I did what I was supposed to do congratulated them and asked the appropriate questions but on the In side I was screaming it felt like I was being held under water. I didn't really understand why they didn't tell my husband and let him give me the news it never rwallyade sense to mw to come to my home. They had a beautiful daughter and a year later thanks to Ivf we had a daughter too. Surprisingly we fell naturally pregnant again and had a second daughter, nearly two months after announcing our second pregnancy they announced there second but unfortunately that ended in a miscarriage. Then two months after that they announced again. My husbands father really wants a grandson to pass on the family name. We already knew at that time we were having a second precious daughter and when my sil found out she was having a second daughter it was the first time I've heard of gender disappointment but her pregnancy wasn't the best and she decided they don't want anymore. Myself and DH have started talking about adding a third if we're lucky. And when it was mentioned in passing the first thing she said to me was I will laugh so hard if you have another daughter?? I didn't comment because I didn't really know what to say except all children are blessings. My DH also said she spoke to him privately and said she doesn't think I should have anymore children because she's conserned about my mental well being ( both times after my children I had postnatal depression. I didn't think I was good enough a mother to my children and just tried too hard to be perfect. I didn't harm my children so her reasoning to talk that way to my DH was alarming to me. I just don't really understand her and why she would feel it was okay to say anything like what she said, or am I thinking too much about nothing.