I am quite upset about this and just not sure what to do. I have ds (3) and my friend has a ds a similar age. I have been separated from DS’s dad since ds was around 9 months and he has worked abroad ever since. I’ve had no ‘time off’ from ds as a result. My friend is in a relationship and her partner does their share.
I work full time (5 days condensed to 4) and ds goes to nursery. I get some maintenance, not sure if that’s relevant. My friend and her partner each work part time as so their ds goes to nursery part time too.
I am almost daily hearing about how hard things are for them. How he won’t sleep, how they’ve not had a pay rise so can’t move (they live in a v small house), how ds is unwell or won’t stop being fussy or how the non nursery days are heavy going, how they never get an evening as he’s hard to settle etc etc etc. I do try and empathise as I know these things are hard. But I’m here doing it ALL alone and I think I complain rarely in comparison. I am getting really sick of having to show support when there seems to be no awareness that whatever they are coping with it’s all on me? I don’t feel I can bring this up as often my friend will be in tears but then the next day all is well if she’s had a nice family day out for example. Everything she mentions I just think gosh I couldn’t even begin to imagine wallowing about that as I just have no choice but to get on with it. Should I have more patience? I feel like I’m being a shit friend and I probably am, I feel awful I feel like this.