To be annoyed that DP wants us to get a dog so he can cuddle me less?

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Title says it all. My boyfriend has just said (quite seriously) that we should get a dog so I have something to hug / cuddle / touch instead of always wanting physical affection from him. He’s even looked up particularly affectionate dog breeds and gone on pets4homes to find us a puppy!! I’m not against getting a dog tbh but I’d rather it wasn’t purely so my bf can sublet his affection for
me to an animal. Now I’m in a mood and he’s slammed the door on me.

Dump him!

I don’t think this makes him a bad person. Maybe he could have phrased things more tactfully.

Everyone has different needs and it seems he likes physical affection less than you do. Has he said before that he struggles with being touched too much?

After you've got the puppy out of him, obviously.

That sounds like a rubbish way to broach the conversation but people need and can cope with different levels of physical contact, he may feel 'touched out' but want you to still have the contact it appears you want/need.

Perhaps your level of physical contact isn't what he's comfortable with?

Is this a “we are growing apart” thing? Or just that you have different love languages? It sounds kind of like the latter.

He's not the devil if he doesn't appreciate the same amount of physical contact as you do.

However, if slamming doors is the way he deals with disagreements, get rid of him immediately.

Have either of you ever owned a dog before?

Have you had a proper discussion on the practicalities of dog ownership?

Can you afford it?

Why on earth is he looking on somewhere as notorious as Pets At Home (many of the puppies on there are farmed)?

Have you contacted a rescue?

Wow lol - our dog had brought so much love, glue to our family and just pure adoration to our family ... we always had a great family but it's now Better ... personally I'd chose the dog I want and if he's not cutting the mustard I'd dump him!! Fuck that 🐾😎

He is BU to consider some overbred puppy farmed dog on Pets4Homes. Go to a rescue, they'll be able to advise based on the dogs they have.

But yes, it's really not nice of him.

Please don’t get a dog off pets4homes.

You sound incompatible to me. Commiting to 15-ish years of dog ownership does not sound like a good idea for you two at the moment

Are you particularly clingy? I mean only you know if you are very needy or not. If you are very needy then I can see why it might be a bit much for some people, Some of us like our space, it doesn't mean I love dh any less but I would hate it if he was glued to me.

Sorry this made me laugh.

How utterly ridiculous 🤣

Keep the dog, ditch the OH.

Are you someone who likes to hold hands all evening or something? I can't stand that.

But he's trying to offer a solution before you've talked about the problem.

I can understand his side.
I adore my husband, but thank goodness he isn't a cuddly, affectionate person every day because I would not be keen and I would be looking to outright swap him for a puppy.

Your partner is either totally in love with you and trying to find a happy medium or you're his beard and he has the ick*.

*IM KIDDING

I like your style!

i would love a dog as long as we were able to look after them property and were making a sensible decision in the animals best interests. I don’t want to get a dog as a way for him to check out of the relationship

YANBU.

It's not solely from him wanting to cuddle you less, but also due to the bandwagon effect. It's some unwritten rule that everyone and his dog now has to own an Instagram puppy.