Would you let child go NC with NRP?

[HonoraryHufflepuff]

Child 12 wants to go NC with NRP. AIBU to allow this?
I have tried extensively over the past decade to facilitate a relationship between them but he is just disinterested
Child is fed up after all of these years to the point where they refuse to even respond to his inconsistent texts

From my POV he has never tried to build a relationship with child despite living 3 miles away, he has always paid bare min maintenance until 2yr ago as ’child benefit is enough to raise a child’, he contributes to nothing (clothing/trips/uniform)

I have an amazing relationship with my father so it’s hard to see my child have to endure this

OP, is there any sort of court order in place?

My DS decided aged 12 not to see his father again. Similarly to you, I am the RP and did what I thought best with respect to maintaining some sort of relationship between DS and his Dad.

I tried (I never want my DS's to think I stood in the way of them seeing their Dad) - asking if he'd like to see Dad, sending Birthday/Father's Day cards, sending emails with news.

DS really wanted it to work, but after increasingly crappy visits, or maybe just DS seeing his Dad for what he is and being old enough to feel confident in his decisions, he told me he didn't want to visit again 2 years ago.

I told him that this was fine, it's his decision and I would support him, and that nothing is for ever so he could change his mind.

I have raised contact (cards, emails) a couple of time since, but he has told me quite clearly he doesn't want to talk about it.

His Dad doesn't even send him a Birthday card. FFS. As the adult and the father you'd think you'd make an effort to keep the lines open a bit so that when DS is older they might be able to build a relationship.

At 12 I think it's important they see that you are listening to them.

I’m not saying you can I’m saying what’s happened with me my boys don’t want to see their dad anymore and I’ve been told I’ve obviously “alienated them” from him 🤷🏻‍♀️

Again I said likely, not that it WILL happen but often people will say the parent has influenced the children’s decision to go no contact even if they are “old enough” I was told this on a legal page