I work in a GP surgery. In a team of 8.
3 of us do the same job. All same level. Different types of patients
NOBODY is the boss. I work alongside two older women who we will call A and B.
Things were great for a while, A would go out of her way to do nice things for me (narcissism disguised as altruism!) and B was great. I got along with everyone. A and B have been friends for years and that's how A got her job.
A slags everyone off all the time. She's not a nice person. Always has something to say. B sometimes joins in but not as much.
A started to belittle me constantly. Directly arguing with everything I say, even when it's in front of her face that I'm right. She would even argue about my own patients (for reference in a mental health practitioner, she has no experience of mh and openly admits that) constantly belittling me and my experience, telling me what to do.
My best friend got hired. I've worked with her for 8 years in a different job. We're adults. We can work together. I asked her to work with me on something as she is a child mh worker (but now works in a different role).
B took issue, said it was a "pisstake" we went for a "jolly" for 3 hours. We literally were having a meeting. She then started making comments about how often my friend accompanied me to patients (double visits are the norm. I don't do many visits but when I do, they're usually in pairs). I directly asked B if she would have a problem if I had taken another colleague and the answer was "but u wouldnt" (No I wouldn't as nobody else has mh experience). The problem was that I took my friend.
B then started micro managing, trying to dictate which patients I saw, and if I challenged that she would argue. B is also not my boss.
A constantly tries to get a rise out of me. If I'm quiet cos I'm busy she says I'm making an atmosphere. I finally had enough when she asked if I was ok, I said yes and then for the next few minutes she pushed and pushed and pushed by constantly telling me I wasn't ok, I was stressed, unhappy and needed to speak to the boss. I kept saying im fine and eventually a colleague snapped and told her to stop (but this colleague is her friend so won't have my back to our boss)
I raised this with our boss who is a GP. I explained the team is toxic. A was silent in the meeting. B tried to gaslight and say things hadn't happened. GP basically said I was the problem as the team worked for 3 years with no issue. 3 people left the team and one of the reasons was bullying but she didn't want to hear that. I was left feeling like I was going to be sacked. She told me that when A was asking if im ok that it's normal and "she knows u like to be left alone now so she won't do it again cos she knows now that u like your space". She basically sang A and B's praises and dismissed my concerns. Basically said it's not toxic it's all normal. She did tell A and B that me taking my friend is fine and I should choose my patients (because it is absolutely fine and normal!) but other than that she sided with them, especially when B said she felt attacked.
After the meeting A then asked if I was ok but I left as I had patients. That evening I messaged B and apologised if she had felt attacked. She did not reply.
I want to leave my job. I can't afford to because I am a single mum with bills to pay and no family or savings.
There will now be even more of an atmosphere. After the last girl was bullied out both A and B would be like "oh we have to be careful now as she'll run to doctor", and would slag her off constantly.
Before me, they would slag off another girl (who's leaving to have a baby) and now I'm
The target.
I'm 36 and too old for this shit. But both A and B are tight with the boss so I know if push comes to shove it's me who goes. I know that A will threaten to leave because of the "atmosphere" so I'll end up sacked. Wrongfully but still means I can't pay my bills.
The whole meeting I was told I was overthinking and made to feel like I'm the problem. I can't describe how petty and toxic these women are. Nobody can move offices either so we're all stuck. They constantly micro manage; they moved my best friends desk without asking her and said they thought she'd be better sitting there.
They constantly ask me to justify what I'm doing. They make decisions but if I make any, they argue or refuse. They are not my boss. It's awful. And the boss said "if people aren't happy they can leave" which tells me to fuck off basically
I supported B through her husbands cheating and divorce (for a while I was the only one she'd told) and now she's over it, she's a bitch.
A is 56. B is 46. I am 36. What in the universe is going on. I guess mean girls never do grow up.
AIBU to complain again? Or should I just put up and shut up?
And by apologising I now look like I'm admitting guilt!