Activity with a sprained ankle

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My husband sprained his ankle yesterday and is resting all of today. Tomorrow we have an afternoon summer party for our daughter's preschool where there will be a little leaving presentation at the end. There will be inflatables and sports activities but parents can just sit on picnic blankets and don't need to do anything active. There is parking by the field it is being held in.

He has said he doesn't think he can go now but I think hopping to a picnic blanket so that he can be there for his daughter's leaving presentation isn't going to be that different to hopping around and sitting down at home.

I'm not one for sitting around when ill (mainly because I never get a chance!) so find it hard to understand his mentality of generally taking lots of time off work etc for minor illnesses and man flu etc. AIBU with this one?

Surely he can make his own mind up? It's very different hopping around outside and getting up and down from the ground than being at home . He should stay at home and rest /elevate it especially so early on.

Strap it and grit his teeth.

I used to sprain my ankle a lot so had the velcro ankle strap ready whenever I did it.

Worst was just before I was due to spend the weekend at an airshow with my dad. Got strapped up and limped round. Had a great time through the occasional tears

Does he want to go? If so then I'm sure there are very many ways to enable him to do so - after all people with limited movement do lead full lives.

Or is he just making excuses?

Take a deckchair

He was planning on coming before the injury. However doing stuff involving our children is never top of his list of things to do, and he is generally quick to make excuses.

Thanks for the reply -of course he can and he will make up his own mind. Just want to see if I'm being unreasonable for being annoyed at him!

I wouldn't want to get on/off the ground with a sprained ankle. Ideally it needs to be elevated and rested - could you take a chair for him?

We could absolutely take camping chairs as well but he still doesn't want to go.

The ankle is a red herring really, isn't it.
He doesn't want to go. Whether that's an issue for you as a family is something we don't know.

Agreed. Even as I read your post my first thought was if it wasn't his ankle it would be something else.

I've got broken ribs and a very badly sprained ankle. I have a transition meeting for one child on Monday, his sports day Tuesday morning, and little one's nursery graduation Tuesday afternoon. I'll be dragging myself to them all. Have sprained my ankles several times and been told by medical staff that although it should be elevated while sitting, it's also important to walk on it. I find it stiffens up and is more painful if I don't force myself to walk on it.

Nought worse than being forced to go. Also children running around likely to trip over him and make the injury worse. Let him stay home

I have a sprain and small break at the moment. I’m in a boot and crutches.

I wouldn’t be able to get up and down to sit on the ground. I wouldn’t be able to manage uneven ground.

He would need a chair but I don’t see why he can’t stay at home and rest.

His injury is recent and my GP warned me to rest and elevate with ice and not to try and do too much as it will extend the recovery time.

I wouldn’t resent my husband for not going and he wouldn’t resent me either.

When I sprained my ankle it was quite severe, four weeks in plaster, months of physio. I assume his is not as bad as that, but nevertheless there is no way I would have been able to sit on the ground and in the early days, the leg needed to be elevated as much as possible.

That said, if his is very mild, then it does sound like it could be excuses.