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Postcard home

28 replies

SenecaFalls1848 · 08/07/2023 01:32

My parents sent a postcard to my home address from their holiday addressed to DD. They said to say hello to me in it but didn’t mention partner.

Partner is upset that they were left out and thinks they were rude. Were my parents being unreasonable?

OP posts:
sandyhappypeople · 08/07/2023 01:39

Oh gosh, hard to say from that, does he live with you? Is he her dad?

Forgottenmypasswordagain · 08/07/2023 01:55

Maybe they don't like him?

Forgottenmypasswordagain · 08/07/2023 01:56

*them

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SenecaFalls1848 · 08/07/2023 01:57

sandyhappypeople · 08/07/2023 01:39

Oh gosh, hard to say from that, does he live with you? Is he her dad?

Yes they are, we are married and live together.

Postcard was written to our 3yo so along the lines of:
”Hi DD, having fun on the beach and missing you. Say hi to mum! Lots of love xx”

I mean she can’t even read… it was a long holiday (they were away for over a month and usually see DD regularly)

OP posts:
greenspaces4peace · 08/07/2023 02:05

They are your parents, the card is meant for you to read to her. Your partner/dh needs not be included.

Imogensmumma · 08/07/2023 02:08

Oh dear it was a sweet short postcard from grandparents to grandaughter I think you partner is being a bit precious, not a hill with dying on.

Ikeatears · 08/07/2023 02:09

Nah. My parents holiday multiple times a year and when my oldest (21) was small, they used to send him postcards from all over the world. Occasionally they would mention me, on the odd occasion, they would mention dh but really, it was was for ds. It was just chit chat. It wasn't over thought. It meant nothing.

theGooHasGone · 08/07/2023 02:14

They presumably knew that it'd be you who picked it up and read it to her, so addressed it to her and referred to you in it. Nothing more to it than that. Your partner is being precious.

Riapia · 08/07/2023 05:49

Writing a message to a child that can’t read.
😁😁😁

noglow · 08/07/2023 05:55

Riapia · 08/07/2023 05:49

Writing a message to a child that can’t read.
😁😁😁

Mine do that - it's cute. They like getting post.

Anyway OP your partner needs to calm down and stop reading into it. Unless there's a history here then yes they hate him

gazpachosoupday · 08/07/2023 06:07

My mum does this and so does my sister, DS is 11 now, I still get excited by getting something through the post that isnt junk.

They never mention me or DP

GoodChat · 08/07/2023 06:23

Tell him to grow the fuck up. It's nice that they sent DD a postcard.

InstaGlam · 08/07/2023 06:36

Seriously? He’s upset over a postcard? He needs to grow up.

Ooophelia · 08/07/2023 06:37

It sounds fine, it’s not like you get a lot of room on a postcard is it! Is he always this petty?

Fairyliz · 08/07/2023 06:41

What is it with all of these sulky men child around at the moment? Did he also stamp his feet, stick his lip out and shout it’s not fair?

Ragwort · 08/07/2023 06:42

He's being absolutely pathetic and precious ... actively looking for something to get upset about it. My DM frequently sends postcards ... addressed to me or DS, I can't imagine my DH would even bother to look at them.

LadinLee · 08/07/2023 06:43

Is there a backstory here OP? As I think most people wouldn't even have noticed who was mentioned and who wasn't on a postcard, which let's face it doesn't have much space, sent to a child

TheresBoozeInTheBlender · 08/07/2023 06:46

What's up with these fragile men? There's another thread where OPs partner is upset because her mum said their child had a lovely day with her nana ffs.

ThinWomansBrain · 08/07/2023 06:47

well I could imagine a five year old sibling that hadn't been mentioned being upset....

an adult???

LaylaLjungberg · 08/07/2023 06:49

I’d text my mum and ask her to send him one haha. It’s not that deep.

Ooophelia · 08/07/2023 06:52

LaylaLjungberg · 08/07/2023 06:49

I’d text my mum and ask her to send him one haha. It’s not that deep.

Yes do this OP! Then he’ll see how ridiculous he is being.

SacreBleugh · 08/07/2023 07:00

This is among the stupidest things I've read on MN for some time. Stick the post card on the fridge and put your husband in the recycling.

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 08/07/2023 07:20

I can be a petty bitch but this I would let go of. It’s a card to your child not the family and unless there’s some huge backstory where they hate your DH and this card is a pointed way of excluding him then he needs to grow the f up!

BlackberrySky · 08/07/2023 07:29

Your DP is being incredibly self-centred. Not everything is about him. He sounds petty and petulant.

Coolhwip · 08/07/2023 07:30

Ugh, he’s pathetic. How can you even look at him with a straight face? It’s a card for dd.

He doesn’t need to be in every interaction.

If his parents had sent the card there is no way he would be annoyed if they’d said ‘say hi to dad’.