To ask for your life transformation stories

[anewlife123]

I'll share mine. I recently moved miles away with my child where I didn't know anyone. I was a mess before I came here. Depression and anxiety, loads of past embarrassing behaviour, a financial disaster. I couldn't even get my daughter to school on time, my house was a shit hole, I took no pride in my appearance. I took drastic measures and left and cut everyone off from back home (DD doesn't see her father). I changed everything. I bought new clothes and invested in myself, I look great and feel great. I do my hair and wear makeup everyday. My house is tidy and homely. I'm finally learning to manage money. My biggest pride is that my daughter has not been late to her new school once, I actually think I come across as one of the organised parents. I actively involve myself in things her new school is doing and I feel like a really good mum. Nobody knows me here and I've literally reinvented myself. I couldn't of done this back home. I couldn't of healed in the place that hurt me. I removed myself from all social media and don't miss home at all, nor do I miss anyone. The changes I've made might not seem like much to some, but are massive to me. DD and I are finally thriving

the old you sounds a lot like me! I wish I could reinvent myself. How long has it been since you moved op?

Hi, I moved about a month and a half ago 🙂

What great hanged you have made in only 6 weeks. Its inspirational. Well done!

Made me smile reading this! Well done you should be so proud x

That is really inspiring! How did you choose where to move? And what about friends, have you made any yet?
It’s interesting that you were able to shake yourself out of anxiety and depression by moving. I’ve heard that inactivity is a cause of anxiety, so makes sense that taking charge would help. Good for you!

It's amazing what you've done. Congratulations! Have you noticed a difference in your daughter? Do you discuss it with her?

Hi, thanks everyone. I literally chose a place I visited once as a child and remember liking and moved there. I just needed to get away. Far away. My daughter is so, so much happier. We both talk all the time about how much we love it here and how we don't miss our old life. I would like to discuss with her when she's older about all the problems I had back home, and why I really decided to move us away. She's a bit young atm, only 9

I like to look at it that I left the bad parts of me/my life behind. I am just the best parts of me now.

I read the book “You are a badass” by Jen Sincero a few years ago and within weeks my income doubled, I got more respect from those around me, increased self esteem and most importantly happier and not depressed any more.

I read it again several years later when I was in a funk and again, career success and house I’d never thought to own all came along.

This month I read it again. This week I’ve had so much change- some a bit scary but I believe I’m about to be offered new, more exciting opportunities by the universe. I had a big win professionally, something I’d never dreamed I’d be able to achieve so I wasn’t planning to go for it… but this book made me do it!. I was also offered a promotion this week with a lot more money but turned it down because I knew I didn’t really want it and believe what I really want is around the corner. The book helped me keep the faith.

It like magic… I know it’s me really, but it really does work changing your mindset and being open to all the new opportunities out there. I love the idea of blind positive faith. It’s self doubt that seeps in over time, which is why I keep re reading it to get me back into the right mindset for success!

Well done OP your story is inspiring. We all have the power to change and create the life we want. Removing the barriers that keep us is a key to success as you have proven!

Amazing story OP what an achievement!

That is amazing. You should be extremely proud. I don't know you but I'm proud of you lol.

Thank you everyone :-)

@Tawstrong i didn’t even get to the end of your post before downloading it to kindle 😂 🤞
Great idea for a thread op I’m gonna be interested in all recommendations on this thread, keep them coming everyone!

Sounds like people were dragging you down . You did the right thing . Once these people get their claws stuck in they don't let go .

The feeling of being trapped (as well as bereavement) is the cause of a lot of depression and anxiety . Op got her self out of the rut and opened a door to a new life

Thanks everyone!
I also believe feeling trap was causing me to feel depressed and anxious. I don't actually think I'm a depressed and anxious person iyswim. All of those feelings disappeared as soon as I moved away and became "new me". Also agree about people dragging me down. Funnily enough these people told me I would be lonely moving away on my own and that it would make my depression and anxiety worse...!

Amazing, well done @anewlife123

I changed my life when I was 25 by leaving my ex who I had been with since I was 17. I was suicidal, and binge drinking and taking drugs he was giving me to keep me under control. I was told if I left I wouldn't be able to keep my children. One day I had a vision and and knew if I stayed one of us would end up dead and something inside me snapped. I told myself I'd sort myself out and leave in 6 months. I stopped drinking and taking drugs completely, and started forcing myself to go out as I only left the house for medical appointments at that point.

Just over 5 months later I couldn't take any more and told him to leave. Eventually he did but stalked and harassed me for nearly a year until he finally accepted it was over.

It took time but I got fit, got a degree and now have a reasonably good job. This was about 18 years ago. I still struggle and have since been diagnosed ADHD which makes perfect sense

I eventually met someone else and had another child and although life is fine I'm in a bit of a funk where I've let myself become stressed and unhealthy and feel like I need inspiration to change things, so watching thread for inspiration.

I'm glad I listened to none of them!

Amazing Dyerun, love your story! Wow x

I've not transformed my life but I often think if child me had known where I'd end up they'd never believe it. I was in a DV family, moved all around the country to womens shelters, changed schools, was bullied in secondary horrendously, didn't do well in exams & now I live in a lovely area, have a DD who is my world &, I'm a great mum, have a few really lovely friends & I work in a job that is really rewarding (although not overly high paying) I remind myself of it often even driving down the road to my house & think 'yip we made it'.

I will also download that book it sounds amazing!

So happy for you OP. Well done x

Well done you and I hope to god these people don't know where you are .

Short version of life story.

Shitty poverty stricken childhood with teenage parents, scapegoat of my family, promiscuous mother who regularly threw hand grenades into the family causing massive disruptions to my education. Family of origin imploded. All estranged because of my mother's manipulations. Dead end jobs. Series of abusive relationships culminating in very unhappy marriage to emotionally unavailable and abusive man. Unhealthy friendships. Developed an eating disorder. Life was an unholy mess.

Mother running off with one of her old boyfriends was the catalyst for me getting out of my marriage and into therapy. First time in my whole life someone actually listened to me. Eating disorder disintegrated there and then. Never returned. NC with all the arseholes who manipulated and brainwashed me into the hole I got myself into.

Life completely turned around. Successfully defended a court case brought by my ex husband resulting in big final settlement and total freedom. Child nearly qualified as a solicitor. Wonderful partner who genuinely loves me.

Agree @anewlife123 , it's the people round you that can ruin your life. Sometimes you have to walk away and start again. Well done Op🤗