To expect ambulance to take my mum into hospital

[Eyeofthetigers]

Come to mums to find her collapsed ok the floor have called an ambulance been waiting ages
could be caused be heart failure s
she is saying she won’t go in but aibu to think she would need to for tests

I thought you shouldnt try to lift someone if they have fallen, she might have broken something?

She was in agony she has gone to hospital

The ambulance staff are VERY GOOD at persuading you if they think you do need to be in hospital
They even managed to persuade my mum years ago who was so poorly with what turned out to be sepsis she was adamant she was no going in (she has MS and will always come out worse) but they did send quite a while gently persuading her and she did go in (on blue lights!) and get treatment

Agree they are very good at persuading those who need to go to go.

I think it’s the authority figure thing that people respect what they are saying.

Ambulances IMHO should be for emergencies when it would be unsafe to go to hospital under your own stream. Either she's ill enough to go to hospital in which case take her yourself (taxi of necessary) or just wait and see how she is after something to eat and drink and a call to 111 if you really are concerned there might be more to it

There are STILL people on NHS threads who will tell you to get a taxi to hospital if you can so as to put less pressure on the ambulance service. In my area pre lockdowns a local cab firm had FIFTY drivers. Now they have NINETEEN. Because so many of them quit and never went back. Its a real struggle now to get a cab anywhere in my town. Let alone to the nearest A+E 12 miles away. So an ambulance it would have to be.
Actions have consequences.

Hope all's well OP

Hope she is ok OP. Its always a worry.

MN is a funny place. 'Your leg is hanging by a thread? Decapitated? There will be dozens of replies saying 'it's not an emergency, get a taxi' 🙄

Recently, a friend had an accident, quite a bad leg injury, the bone in her leg exposed, we stemmed bleeding with pressure but were still asked to bring her in, no ambulance available even though she was she was categorised as priority, she was in agony. An ambulance would have been able to sort some pain relief. We then had to queue in the car park to get into a&e. They were inundated. She was in hospital a few days and had surgery and left in a brace with 40+ stitches internal and surface. It wasn't a scratch.

@Eyeofthetigers So sorry for my advice I didn't see she was in pain. Hope she recovers well, a supportive family means so much.

Thank you all
I’m very worried about my mum
I think she’s vulnerable and at risk but she would go mad if I told anyone
she keeps falling cos of her health - will hospital pick up on the safeguarding aspect

I’m not in a position to have her here

Hospitals do have social workers and will assess if she is safe to discharge. But, if she minimises the issues they may not pick up on it.

My mum had a couple of falls and ended up in hospital. We found it necessary for one of us to be with her as much as possible in the early days when she was being assessed in hospital because basically she would lie because she wanted to go home and didn’t want any tests. We made sure they got an accurate picture of what was happening. They’re not mind readers.

I'm sorry about your Mum, but glad she went in
If you're worried that your Mum will downplay her situation, as her daughter the staff will take your views on board