to think that piercing the ears of a teething baby is unreasonable?

[wolveschick]

Overheard in a jewellers, mother saying 'I know I should have got them done earlier and now she's teething she's already a nightmare so she will be even more grumpy now when I have her 'done'. Led to discussion with jeweller about the fact that babies ears should be pierced as soon as possible but mother had left it so was getting it done now. AIBU to think that this could have waited until the baby was feeling a bit better? Its not as if its an essential procedure that couldnt have waited. I'm all for freedom of choice but making an already suffering baby more miserable to make a fashion statement is unreasonable IMHO.

Totally agree, I really don't see why people have to get babies ears pierced anyway!

It could wait until the baby is in her teens imo Wolveschick this is a bit of an incendiary subject on mn, be prepared for fireworks.

I think you shouldn't get a baby's ears pierced at all - think it's a form of abuse actually - but thats just me.

[PP wonders at the freedom of choice the baby had...]

I agree with panic pants, think it looks awful as well

Why do babies need their ears pierced - teething or not?

poor baby, having your ears pierced is painful even when you're an adult and you understand what is happeneing. also, she'll look like a complete chav, nice.

For the record I disagree totally with babies having pierced ears but I thought this was particularly unreasonable as she knew the baby was suffering as it was.

It looks cheap

especially when they have huge hoops in!!!!!!!

it looks so horrible! i would always be worried the baby would pull the earings out, they dont have that much co ordination when they are that small, could rip their ears.

vulgar and cruel

YANBU. Very cruel. DD had her ears pierced when she left primary school. Sadly it turned out she was allergic to gold and her ears swelled up so much, the hospital took the earrings out THROUGHT THE BACK! It was the most harrowing thing ever. Both DH and I were holding her down on the bed. I know this is a one off, but it is ingrained on my mind that DD said to me afterwards. 'Mummy, I'm glad I wasn't any younger, because that would have been even worse for you and me.'

I wouldn't do it. But then again DD is 10 and i am seen by some as being unreasonable for not allowing it yet. In some cultures and families it's the norm. In the grand scheme of things, it's not that harmful or absusive. Ear piercing is going to hurt whenever, so whether it's a baby, a 10 year old, 16 year old or adult it's going to hurt. So, IMO YANBU but in trying to see all sides, YABU. How's that for sitting on the fence?!

Maureen - how lovely your DD sounds. Imagine considering her mother's feelings when she was in so much pain herself.

YANBU. I think children with ears pierced look common as hell. No daughter of mine will be allowed to have hers done until she is at least 14.

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poor lulumama, it's obviously all getting too much for her

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i let dd1 have hers done at 6, but she wanted them done, we explained that it hurts and she had to let us clean them etc, she still wanted them done. However DD2 is now 6 and doesn't want them done at all, her choice. and my boys don't have earrings.

as you were, ladies !

Children should not have pierced ears until they are old enough to want and then ask for them and even then I will have the final word if under the age of 12.

It's no better than piercing their eyebrow or nose imo. Vicious.
I would still think that if it was a cultural thing for some African tribe btw...

I agree with sparkly, if mine want it done and they are old enough to understand what it entails then I would allow it but not as babies/toddlers