Would the teacher have been able to accept this?

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DD aged 9, Y4 overcame something massive for her earlier this week due to the support of her fabulous teacher. She’s also DDs teacher again next year in Y5.

Tonight was the summer fayre, and I spotted the teacher so went to the cake stall with DD and told her to choose one for her teacher then we went over.

Teacher said thanks, then I saw her chatting to the headteacher then I didn’t see her again.

Hoping she wasn’t throwing it away and was just sticking it in the fridge or her car. It was literally a 50p slice of chocolate cake to say thank you for helping DD.

I really respect the teacher and didn’t want to put her in an awkward position, so would she have been allowed to accept it or was she just being polite because she wasn't allowed to but didn't want to say?

Absolutely fine. Am sure she was saving it.

I'm absolutely sure it was a coincidence- I can't imagine her not being allowed to take it! Was it on a paper plate or in a napkin or something? Maybe she was putting it somewhere safe to take home.

I'm a teacher. I'd have been touched and grateful for a cake.

(And I'd have eaten it the minute I got home) It was really kind of you both and I'm sure the teacher was pleased.

Maybe she doesn't like cake but was too nice to say so?

@LobsterCrab She is a lovely lovely teacher so maybe she didn't want to say if she didn't like it

Theres no problem with giving that gift. It was very kind gesture of yours. She will have appreciated it.

It's fine OP, and a lovely gesture.

At my daughters summer Fayre I asked her teacher if she wanted me to grab her a burger while I was in the queue 🤷‍♀️
She told me the next day it was lovely and really appreciated so I can't imagine a piece of cake wouldn't be allowed 🤷‍♀️

I think you’re overthinking it. She said thanks, I’m sure she appreciated the gesture. Why would you assume she was throwing it away?

Maybe she didn’t want to eat it there and then, or she’s on a diet, or doesn’t like eating cakes made by children and parents for school fetes.

I know many many teachers who don't eat anything home-made from school fairs/events/end of year gifts. If you saw what some kids' hygiene is like you wouldn't eat anything that they had any hand in cooking. Sorry OP.

(Not forgetting dietary needs/allergies etc)

Lovely gesture though, that was received with thanks, so I think the message was received.

I never eat cake brought in by children and that includes school fetes. I’m a thank you and dispose of it teacher I’m afraid. I would be touched by the sentiment though and tell them it was absolutely delicious.

There'd have been no issue accepting a cake as a small gift.

I hosted a meeting for staff from various schools recently. For refreshments, I proudly told them the cakes had been made by students. I was shocked at how many adults turned their noses up and refused to have one! Maybe she wasn't keen on homemade cake of unknown providence.

Teachers can normally accept small token gifts. In my last school anything with a value of over £15 had to be declared to the head but as far as I know teachers always got to keep it but the head might ring home and double check it was OK for the child to have given such a gift as it was at Secondary school so pretty rare.

No problem at all. There are many many things that teachers talk to heads about. I've no idea why you'd think it was the cake!

And ignore those who say she wouldn't want it. A few teachers are a bit wary of things that kids have made in the classroom, but cake stalls at the school fete? Nah, you've got to be very pernickety not to eat stuff made by parents.

I love a cake stall!

I never eat at school- it's just a phobia I have about getting " caught short" so I would say thank you- and mean it- and it would either go home or be eaten by some other hungry teacher with fewer hang ups!

The headteacher asked DD about it today apparently, more of a "it was very kind of you to buy Mrs X a cake" way, apparently the cakes where made by the wraparound lead and not by any of the children so it will have been eaten.

HT had heard all about DD overcoming this thing and even gave her a certificate for it in todays assembly, so assuming said teacher has been talking about it!

Haha. This reminds me of when I was doing a stall at the fayre with a mum and we were super busy. She kept sending her husband off to buy me food! I had homemade curry from a stall, a slice of pizza and an Ice-cream! (Struggled to eat it while face painting but hugely appreciated the gesture so made sure I ate it all!) Honestly don't worry, it will have been gratefully relieved!)