Fed up how husband speaks to me

[karisa282]

He’s tidying the garden and takes a lot of mouldy junk out the shed and tells me to come out and sort it with him otherwise he’s “putting everything in the bin “

I just feel dread whenever I have to engage with him and he wonders why I don’t have any romantic feelings . He’s mid 30s, Middle Eastern background.

I have Aspergers and bpd and just feel empty all the time at my situation

Have you got other examples?

Have you talked to him about it?

What’s the relevance of his background?

To be honest, I can't really see anything wrong with what he said there.

Is it the tone that's the problem rather than what he's actually said?

If you dread engaging with him and are so unhappy in the relationship, then it's probably time to start your divorce.

If you are unhappy sounds like you should consider divorce.

Are you having therapy for your BPD?

Any other examples of this OP? To give a little more context?

He's dictating your time

Literally saying come and tidy this with me or I throw your stuff out

It's abusive, coercive and aggressive

Dump the fucker

i wanted another baby for the last 2 years and he finally agreed in April but made me sign a “contract” on his tablet with silly terms but i was desperate and agreed to it things like

he will name the baby or get the last day
i will buy the baby’s items
I will visit his family in Middle East
I will look after the baby all the time

after 2 previous c sections where he hasn’t been nice when we got home I am scared of how things will turn out. When I ask for help with chores he says “ stop giving orders”

im laying there with big c section scar and he doesn’t act on the pile of dishes and laundry and I ended up getting so angry and upset as im a control freak

as he’s been voice recording me off and on for the last 8 years as I had melt downs in the past where I lashed out and scratched him or pushed him
hes 6”5 so has never been seriously hurt

once I ripped a gift from his mother and he whacked me on the arm with it (scarf) but he would never admit that’s abuse I don’t have any recordings of that

I would like him to delete the recordings but he said he’s keeping them to show the kids when they’re older incase I get full custody and ban them from going to iraq with their father on visits

I also hate he’s making me contribute 20% of my salary to bills as I never had to pay before I started work and I find it more romantic when the man pays everything.

I hate everything about him and his family they seem very lucky with their health and nothing bad ever happens to them

I rejected his advances the other night as I said I’m not attracted to someone who records me and he said fine he will not make any moves as my body is saggy anyway.
I’ve been scarred yesterday from the brow wax I had and he’s been calling me scar face

so I’m trapped in this situation