Please no judgement as it may seem clear to some but I really have blinded in this relationship and I need some outside views and opinions.
I have been my with my BF for about a year and things were great to start. He works as a kitchen porter and rarely has any money spare.
In the last few months he’s been asking to borrow money a lot and taking it out on me that he has no money. He smokes so expects me to buy him cigarettes. If he has no money for cigarettes he gets in a really bad mood and calls me names, becomes distant and sometimes argumentative. He will say ‘I’ll be fine if I just have a cigarette, I need one’ and then he thinks I will buy him a pack to get him out of his bad mood.
I have taken out a few loans since being with him, just to try and please him. His overall mood and attitude towards me is better when we have some money between us but it’s always me paying back the loans. It’s mainly always me paying for drinks, meals, days out etc. sometimes we pay half but that’s very rare.
He gambles too and there has been instances were we have gone to the pub together for drinks or a meal and I’ll be left sat by myself whilst he is on the fruit machines.
When he does have money he spends it on pointless things and it’s gone within the same day.