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To feel so sad

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moneymatr · 04/07/2023 23:21

For my 7 year old son.

He's a wonderful funny boy. But he's autistic, he wants friends but struggles socially. The other children do not always have the patience for him. He can not understand why they don't want to be his friend.
The other day three children pinned him down because he was annoying them. He was terrified.
School say the right things to me but I've observed staff being really dismissive with him.

He hates school he recently said he would sooner go to hospital than school.
It's his birthday soon he really wants to go trampolining with 3 children. I've invited 7 different children. 4 have said no, 1 said yes and the others haven't replied. I'm dreading that I might have to tell him we can't get 3 children to come.
He's so sweet. If the world could just accommodate a little it would make such a difference.

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Sweetashunni · 04/07/2023 23:27

Awww poor lad. Can you post on a local parenting Facebook group and find him some likeminded friends? I often see such posts in my local group and they always get a good and empathetic response.

NewbieT · 04/07/2023 23:28

So sorry to hear your sweet boy is having a hard time. Must break your heart. In my experience children in later primary years get a little less brutal and more empathetic , hopefully in time the other kids will be better friends to him. Hope the party goes ok x

Addicted2LoveIsland · 04/07/2023 23:31

OP this makes me so sad for him. Do you have friends with children a similar age? I second what a PP said perhaps you can get a local group together with like-minded parents or neuro-diverse kids?
I'm shocked and disappointed other parents in his class aren't being more supportive.

wildfirewonder · 04/07/2023 23:32

The other day three children pinned him down because he was annoying them. No, they pinned him down because they were unkind and the school was not watching carefully.

I hope some children come to his party.

Blueskysunflower · 04/07/2023 23:37

Is he in the right school for him? Children learn from the adults around them - if his teachers are being dismissive of him then the children will pick up on that. Can you find him an activity he’d enjoy and maybe make friends at or round here there’s an autistic youth club (that my autistic child refuses to go to but that’s another story…).

It’s so hard.

KajsaKavat · 04/07/2023 23:37

I’m not suggesting you should home educate if that’s not for yoj but the home Ed community is littered with autistic children who never did thrive in school and it’s easier for the children to get friends.

MidgeMainCourse · 04/07/2023 23:40

I came to say the same as @KajsaKavat - the home ed community is full of autistic kids, and there is generally more acceptance.

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moneymatr · 04/07/2023 23:45

wildfirewonder · 04/07/2023 23:32

The other day three children pinned him down because he was annoying them. No, they pinned him down because they were unkind and the school was not watching carefully.

I hope some children come to his party.

You are right thank you

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moneymatr · 04/07/2023 23:46

Sweetashunni · 04/07/2023 23:27

Awww poor lad. Can you post on a local parenting Facebook group and find him some likeminded friends? I often see such posts in my local group and they always get a good and empathetic response.

That's a great idea thank you

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moneymatr · 04/07/2023 23:46

NewbieT · 04/07/2023 23:28

So sorry to hear your sweet boy is having a hard time. Must break your heart. In my experience children in later primary years get a little less brutal and more empathetic , hopefully in time the other kids will be better friends to him. Hope the party goes ok x

Thank you

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moneymatr · 04/07/2023 23:48

Blueskysunflower · 04/07/2023 23:37

Is he in the right school for him? Children learn from the adults around them - if his teachers are being dismissive of him then the children will pick up on that. Can you find him an activity he’d enjoy and maybe make friends at or round here there’s an autistic youth club (that my autistic child refuses to go to but that’s another story…).

It’s so hard.

We started going to a asd football group but he didn't like it.

It's a junior school and it's his 1st year there. I'm giving it a term next year then I'm going to start looking at other schools if no improvement

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