To not understand how people cope?

[Otherpeoplemanage]

I'm really really struggling.
I work full time in a pretty demanding job, which I keep fucking up.
I have two dc who are great but also a demand.
It's not the DC though, it's life. How do people do it? I can't cope with all of it.
I need an easier job that I can't mess up. I'm useless. My friends all have good jobs and kids and cope just fine.
I can't do the simplest thing.
How do people do it? Im in my 40s. Academically not stupid but that counts for nothing. In terms of common sense and ability to juggle ten things at once, I'm useless.

I just dont know how people manage to just do life. How do they remember it all without getting in a mess? How are they not exhausted all the time? I'm working more than my hours and it still isn't enough, I'm still behind. Plus a weekend day. I'm constantly strung out.

Everyone else seems to have it together, how?

What sort of things do you feel you forget/struggle with?

My feeling of overwhelm and useless turned out to be ADHD, might be worth looking into. I'm still a bit all over the place, but at least I understand what's going on and can try to mitigate it a bit. :/

You don't say whether you have a DH/DP?

If you're single it's much tougher without someone to half the responsibilities with, unless you have very supportive parents/other family.

I feel similar and sure others do too - plenty of parents struggle to balance life. Once you’ve got work, family, home .. it’s just a lot to juggle. Something always has to give, I feel - friends, exercise ?

The friends I have who cope best and don’t really struggle (they say) have a combination of:
Family support
cleaner
money for meals out, nice holidays etc
easygoing kids
flexible and or part time work

Can you manage any of those?

We don’t have any of the above! Kids are 9 and 11, 11yo has ASD and always something going on. Plus our parents are all in their 80s and need our help at weekends, which is draining. Dh is supportive but works long hours (not in well paid job) and prone to depression.

I do work 4 days a week and my day off is a godsend, I must admit.