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AlphaB3tty · 2023-07-04T18:14:34+00:00

DH isn't feeling well and it's been raining all day. AIBU to not put the heating on when he has asked?

SummaLuvin · 04/07/2023 21:12

AlphaB3tty · 04/07/2023 20:49

It's not that he asked, it's the way he said it and had a go at me with attitude in his voice.

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first the problem is the month. then the way the heat would effect you. now it’s the way he asked.

so you’re one of those. never actually saying what you mean and articulating the problem, but expecting people to read between the lines and figure it out. no wonder your husband is always ill, you sound exhausting.

ChicagoBears · 04/07/2023 21:13

I’m really cold tonight but have added an extra duvet and some socks, no way am I putting that heating on.

Pigstrotter · 04/07/2023 21:22

Is that you Alan? Never having heating on between March & September no matter what.

Ozgirl75 · 04/07/2023 21:25

I’m in Surrey and it’s bloody freezing! I’m in a jumper, ok I don’t need the heating on but I am sitting under a throw.

Northernsoullover · 04/07/2023 21:28

I've dug out my fluffy boot slippers and my fleece bed jacket. Definitely no heating though.

ssd · 04/07/2023 21:32

SummaLuvin · 04/07/2023 21:12

first the problem is the month. then the way the heat would effect you. now it’s the way he asked.

so you’re one of those. never actually saying what you mean and articulating the problem, but expecting people to read between the lines and figure it out. no wonder your husband is always ill, you sound exhausting.

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WolfFoxHare · 04/07/2023 21:38

AlphaB3tty · 04/07/2023 19:19

If it goes on, then I end up roasting. I won't be allowed to put a fan on or turn the radiator down in case he gets cold!

But he’s the one who’s ill, not you. So why are you prioritising your comfort over his? DH would definitely put the heating on for me if I were cold and unwell, and I do the same for him.

TheNoodlesIncident · 04/07/2023 21:43

Our heating comes on automatically when the temperature drops past a pre-set level. It has been coming on the past few days.

That isn't your issue though is it? Your issue is that you are feeling resentment at your DH's attitude towards you.

hattie43 · 04/07/2023 22:20

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Not here . I'm in the SE, as south as you can get but I've got a blanket over DDog and me now

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 04/07/2023 22:21

If he’s not well and feeling cold I don’t see the problem - if you can afford it. A heated thrown or similar might make more sense if you have one.

Shoemadlady · 04/07/2023 22:33

Sounds like you're more annoyed at the fact he's a complete manchild / hypochondriac and the asking for the heating is just another moan moan I'm ill grumble. He'd do my head in to be honest.

Itsdecisiontimeisitnot · 05/07/2023 05:47

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AlphaB3tty · 05/07/2023 11:38

The negative posts aren't really necessary are they.

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GasPanic · 05/07/2023 11:58

Suppose it depends on how cold it is.

I mean in the winter a lot of people heat their houses to 22C or so.

If it is 18C outside and the house has equilibrated at that temp internally, then I don't really see the difference in turning the heating on whether it is July or December.

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SamW98 · 05/07/2023 12:26

I t was freezing when I got home last night and I considered putting heating on without being sick so of course it’s reasonable to put it on for a while if it makes him feel a bit better.

Scalessayeek · 05/07/2023 12:54

I turned the heating on on Monday. We’ve all got a sickness bug with chills etc and even dressed up and under blankets were so poorly. I didn’t even need to adjust the thermostat though, so if it had been a few months earlier it would have been cold enough to turn it on!

Qilin · 05/07/2023 12:56

If it is cold then my heating goes in.
My heating isn't regulated by the month of the year, or the date, it simply by the temperature on my thermostat.
I'm nit being cold just because it says July on the calendar!

If my dh or child, or I, we're poorly and feeling cold then yes - I'd do what made them feel better.

Why can't he make a household decision for himself anyway? Why are you in control of the thermostat?

arethereanyleftatall · 05/07/2023 12:58

Do you actually like him op?

Because it really doesn't sound like that. Which begs the question why are you with him?

CosmosQueen · 05/07/2023 13:50

I was so cold by lunchtime yesterday (wearing vest, shirt, fleece, jeans, socks) I put the heating on and lit the wood burner. It was 11°outside and no warmer indoors.
I had a lovely toasty afternoon 😊

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 06/07/2023 09:44

I had my leccy blanket on last night for a bit. If he's ill he will be feeling awful. Put it on. In fact I would've just done it myself if I was him