I’m biased as I really dislike MIL and everything she does seems to grind my gears. I’m also NC with MIL for other reasons but DP is still in contact. I’m only bothered about MIL health as it affects DP.
MIL is VERY WORRIED AND FRIGHTENED as she’s been referred to a specialist after having an appointment with her GP this morning. Apparently the GP is VERY CONCERNED about her cervix (she’s in her mid 70s) and will be referring her to the specialist at the BIG hospital.
last year it was exactly the same after she found a mole and the GP referred her. Lots of crying, blackmailing for more visits as ‘I don’t know how much more time I’ve got left!’ - sagas like this makes me thankful that I’m NC with MIL as it’s impossible not to say anything.
If anything my blood is boiling as a close family friend of DP (somebody he sees as a mothering figure) has just been diagnosed with cancer in at least her ovaries. Its came on suddenly and its very serious. She’s really bloody ill and she’s constantly underplaying it to us - we only know as her family reached out to us. MIL is also friends with FF so it does feel a little convenient/bad taste.
I asked DP why has his mum told him. We have a lot on our plate at the moment (I’m in my third trimester) and especially with DP worried sick about FF the last thing we need is MIL waving her ‘I could be dying’ flag. He says it’s because she’s worried and frightened but why isn’t she getting support from FIL/close friends? But actually what support can we give while she waits for a referral. Last time with her mole she didn’t even tell us that her mole was fine/she didn’t actually have cancer, she just stopped using her cancer as a stick to beat us.
In my family we very really discuss health related matters. If we’re informed that someone is ill it usually means get to the hospital to say your goodbyes unless someone needs practical support.
AIBU to think that MIL should be told she’s bloody selfish or at least not pandered to.