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To want daughter to play with different people

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gherkeen · 04/07/2023 09:42

About five years ago, this one kid seemed sweet at first playing with my daughter but then she strated possessing her and forbidding other people to play with my daughter. The following year they were on different classes and my daughter found new friends. However this year they have been in the same class again. Now the girl has no friends and clings to my daughter to the point that my daughter has lost all her other friendships. At DD's birthday party the friend shouted at others and stopped everyone else interacting with my daughter. I've had to take my other child to school at lunchtime a coupe of times recently and I've observed the girl doing the same in the play ground. Following my daughter, grabbing her, tugging her and almost "marking her" like they're on opposite teams at netball. My daughter has lost all her friendships and it's not been helped by the school sitting my daughter next to her all year (whilst other kids get moved around to sit with different people). I have become aware that the other child's mum kept complaining to school that the child had no friends and is delighted my daughter has solved the problem. I feel like my child's friendships and social skills and independence have been sacrificed to solve the problem. Now some other girls are calling my daughter names and destroying her confidence. DD's friends are still nice to her they just don't get to play with her. I wish my daughter could play with this girl AND her friends either all together or alternately. I think it's sweet she plays with the girls but I don't like the possessive and controlling aspect and the effecr it's having on DD. I feel so horrible saying all this. Any advice of how to delicately get a bit of a better balance for DD would be good. DD wants to play with her friends too and it's getting her down. I've been thinking it'll pass all year.

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24Dogcuddler · 04/07/2023 16:09

Please speak to someone at the school. Maybe the Keystage lead. If it is a two form entry school it may not be too late to split them for September.
The social difficulties may not be apparent in the classroom. If you raise it now it will give the staff a chance to do a playground observation or speak to SMSAs.

ZeroFucksGivenToday · 04/07/2023 16:11

Don't be delicate. Go into school and get it sorted.

raise the issues you have here, ask for her to be moved in class. Advocate for your DD. It's not fair.

ZeroFucksGivenToday · 04/07/2023 16:12

Ask for them to be in separate classes next year. If that's not possible make it clear you don't want them sat together.

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