To hand control of my diet to DH?

[DietChefDH]

DH & I joined a gym about 8 weeks ago. We go separately due to the DC but are both enjoying it. I've joined lots of classes which I love and are the type of thing I'd usually stick with so I don't think it's a 5 minute wonder.

Since we joined, DH has lost almost a stone, and I have gained 2kg. This is not because I've put on muscle, but because my diet is ridiculous, and DH has been doing amazingly. For example, I'd go to the gym and buy a two pack of custard slices on the way home, and eat them. DH does not...

I'm currently a 'decent' size 14 and about 12st 6, we go on holiday in about 6 weeks time and I would like to wear a bikini. I know that anybody can wear a bikini if they want to, but I would currently feel very uncomfortable.

For full disclosure, DH used to be an excellent Head Chef and does a lot of the cooking at home. It's just that I add in lots of snacks and extras. He is completely willing (and lovely) so what if I handed over my entire diet to him for a few weeks and just ate what he made me, all calorie counted, delicious and slimming!

Just for further clarification, he hasn't asked me to lose weight, suggested he take responsibility for my food and I'd be entirely free to stop at any time. But this would be like one of those services that people pay ££££ for where a chef delivers you a calorie controlled diet.

AIBU to think this might be just what I need?

But would you still be likely to go and buy cakes and eat them on your own?

It does sound ideal, but unless he is following you 24-7 then how can it work?

Oh no, absolutely not, my part of the bargain in return for him making all the food and me doing nothing is that I don't eat a box of Ferrero Rocher in the car or similar! He provides it, I stick to it!

Well, if you know you will stick to it, then why not? Make sure he knows what kind of things you like so e.g. if you like something sweet every day then he has to provide it!

You should keep a blog with photos and recipes. When you lose the weight you will both get the credit!

I think it sounds a good idea IN PRINCIPLE but it's actually a very bad one for several reasons.

Your husband will probably take this request seriously and really take over your life when it comes to what you will eat. You will have no say, after all, he's demonstrated that he can do it and you can't... that's not my opinion but it will be what he thinks.

Ever morsel you put in your mouth will be subject to his consent. I would not underestimate how stultifying that would be and how resistant you are likely to become. You're already buying and eating things that aren't good for you. Imagine that amplified because you are no longer 'allowed'.

Fast forward to his attempts to control your diet being thwarted, his resentment would only be matched by yours. Not good for your marriage.

Honestly, do not abdicate control of your diet to your husband or anybody else. Try not to put on any more weight whilst you find a method that works for you, that's my advice. Keep control of your own diet and weight, ask for advice/guidance if you want - but under your own steam.

You can do this, there are some very good threads on Mumsnet, no need for Sgt Major husband.

I definitely hear what you're saying @LyingWitchInTheWardrobe
We both WFH so maybe a better approach is that I just eat what he eats and cut out the ridiculous extras of my own accord!

What died he do that he can cook three meals a day for you?
Frankly it's my ideal scenario as I hate cooking and portion control is my downfall. He needs to realise you can't just eat the amount that he does - he has to adjust for your size snd that you are female.

Strange stealth boast. You should bite his hand off.

Yes he'd adjust portion size for me, we both WFH and he's a quick cook! Thinking it through, that's probably what I mean really, I just eat the same as him, so that's 'my choice' rather than him deciding what I can eat. That's a much better way of looking at it, thank you!

I might keep this thread updated with progress. Although I have NC so that might be a bit of a faff!

You think @Coolhwip - definitely not a stealth boast! I'm very lucky I know!

This makes no sense though. If you can cut out the binge eating when dh cooks, why not just do it now?
Binge eating has deep-seated psychological roots which you will need to address regardless of who cooks your meals.