Another lie

[EsmeT]

My ex took that I live with took out a payday loan whilst we were together and lied about it up until now. This isn't the first time he has lied about this sort of thing. He made me feel shit for having 4 months mat leave on statutory pay and blamed me for the debt! He has blamed me for his recent payday loan as I lost my job for 3 weeks last year. He went behind my back and took this out. Due to his lies and debt we have to take my daughter out of nursery. I pay my fair share on everything. I feel utterly let down, I feel like I never really knew him. I don't have anyone to talk to about any of this.

Leave him and claim universal credit for your nursery fees and to top up your income he sounds emotionally abusive

Oh love. That’s awful. You sound so deflated. What do you feel want to do about it all?

Can I still claim nursery fees whilst still working? I am emotionally drained.

It is really shit, and no wonder you feel let down. Good for you that he is now an ex.

Are you happy to share some more details?
There us some excellent women on her, with a huge amount of experience who can give you advice.

If you're happy to share; why are you still living with him? Is he going to be moving out soon?
Why does the payday loan impact your daughters nursery? Is it because he has so much debt, he can't afford to pay his share of the nursery fees, and you can't afford to pay them all by yourself?
Are you claiming universal credit?

If you don't want to answer, you dont have to.

I am still under his roof as I can't afford to move out. We both work, but once our salaries are paid it is gone paying things out. I don't have any family or friends, so I am stuck. I wouldn't be able to afford the rent on this place on my own, it is a depressing situation all around. He has maxed his 3k overdraft, and took out a payday loan for 1k. When I met him he had a 10k debt which he didn't tell me until I was pregnant, but it is paid now. Our daughter is 2, she has been going to nursery since she was 7 months old and has some wonderful friends. I am truly heartbroken for her. I already pay half of her fees, my salary doesn't cover it all.

@EsmeT yes you can, pop your details through an entitled to calculator on the website entitled to and it will show you how much you can claim put everything you can on the information including all nursery fees and how much your rent is etc. Best of luck you deserve better!

Thank you for sharing.

Like @Bb234 said, absolutely look into universal credit and see what you are entitled to.

I know its really shit, but maybe have a think about putting yourself on the council property waiting list. I know its a complete nightmare, but it may give you some options that are better than how you are living now.