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To tell DH how to parent

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DuchyCazalet · 03/07/2023 18:41

It's not your typical MN problem but DH does too much, particularly for the kids. DD15 is off school for the past couple of weeks and she has been basically doing nothing. She doesn't really bother meeting friends. She's on her phone an awful lot.
DH was wfh today and when I got in he was unloading the dishwasher and making her dinner - both tasks that she could be assisting with or leading. This is after her being home all day.
We just don't agree on parenting and I end up being the one to tell her to get off her phone or giving her jobs to do. Unloading the dishwasher is supposed to be the kids job but DH said he was waiting for his food to cook so wasn't a problem for him to do it.
I just don't see him helping her to become an adult or even helping her not be entitled.
He's a lot softer/kinder than me so I'm not even sure if I'm being unreasonable.

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JeandeServiette · 03/07/2023 18:44

Have you specifically talked to him about the need for teens to develop domestic life skills? What does he say?

It might be too much for him to completely unlearn these habits but could you designate Friday as "teens cook dinner day"?

Maybe also put it to him that teenagers don't necessarily want parents handling their dirty laundry, for example? Play up the privacy angle?

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