Ok so today I sat down and wrote my mum an email telling her how I feel.
im early 40s my mum and dad are 65/70
my mum is unhappily married has been for as long as I can remember.
childhood was ok, my dad was very strict, my mum used to lie to him so I could go out with friends ect.
I’ve always been my mums sounding board but as I’ve got older I’ve definitely become less tolerant of it, she moans about her life… my dad… her work… her sisters.
my dad is a miserable man.
now the email I have written is quite hard hitting so before I send it I wanted a hand hold.
live tried talking to them both
ive tried telling my mum it makes me uncomfortable hearing about the rows
i have suggested counselling
i have suggested clubs
ive suggested they split up (financially they could)
my mum is mentioned more because my dad is miserable but doesn’t moan at me.
she calls me every day and I can’t take anymore. They make me sad and unhappy.
its now at the point where she does it in a way that she’s saying it in a cheerful tone so I can’t say she’s moaning.
she will not take this well…..I will get a lot of “ I have no one else” which makes me feel like crap but my mental health is at breaking point.
help!