Should I bother?

[redskyatnight99]

DD is nearly 5 and has had play dates with a couple of girls in her class.
We recently went to a birthday party with a group of her classmates at a local softplay centre.
Noticed one of the girls kept wanting to follow around these two girls who are best friends , despite my DD attempts to play with her.
Eventually one of the two best friends turned to this girl and said they didn't want to play with her etc. she ran off crying.
My DD didn't seem that phased by what happened and was playing with all...
But even after that this girl continued to ran for play with these best friends and not see that my DD would make a good friend.

Afterwards her mother was trying to make plans for a play date with us...but I thought no, my DD is not an after thought.
Im thinking of not arranging anything.

DD seems happy at school, talks about the "best friends" "im not your best friend" but doesn't seem upset by any of it.
She will often go and play with some of the boys rather than trawl around like this other girl did to girls who aren't interested.

What are you thoughts?

They're still little OP. Please unclench or you're going to find the school journey fraught.

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You said "My DD didn't seem that phased by what happened and was playing with all..."

That's not being ignored.

One 4-5yo girl had it in her head she wanted to play with Emma and Sunita at the party and got upset when they told her to go away...and you think YOUR daughter is the one who had a bad time at the party?!

Suggesting your daughter was an 'afterthought' is a strange way to interpret the situation.

For whatever reason, although I'm going to say because she is 5, the other girl is having a hard time navigating friendships and the mum is trying to steer her towards nice kids like your own.

If your daughter doesn't want to have a play date with her then that's completely fine. But if you are saying no because of your feelings then I don't think that's right.

I would go more with the behaviour of the girl when she had a play date with your daughter, the party is irrelevant. If she didn't play well at the play date maybe they are just not suited to each other. Have you asked your daughter if she wants a play date with this girl? If she does, great, if not, then decline.

Nope. I've been through that Reception stage more than once and never has it crossed my mind to write a kid off like that.