Think friend has deleted me of what's app

[regustering]

I messaged my friend the other day on what's app asking if she's seen the perinatal mental health team - we do talk about mental health and she's been good.

She responded back stating she spoke to them once and because she said she was good they discharged. She asked if everything was ok.

I responded back yes, just that they want to speak to me.

Since then she's no longer got a whats app pic but she's read my message.

She's never not had a pic.

AIBU I'm thinking she's no longer my friends

Nope. I've reread the OPs posts and it does not state that. She has 1.asked her friend if she has seen the perinatal mental health team and 2. Said that team want to see the OP herself. The OP has not said the perinatal team want to talk to her about her friend. Because how would the perinatal team even know the OP exists if she is not a patient? And even being a patient, how would they know she is friend's with another patient?

You’ve read wrong read this response.

I responded back yes, just that they want to speak to me. I'm confused- why do they want to speak to you about her? Op responded perinatal team questioned by fluffyfluff something or other.

It seems as though the OP is saying that they are both under the perinatal MH team and they also want to speak to her.

That’s what I initially thought but op was quoted on a line on the op this…..

I responded back yes, just that they want to speak to me. I'm confused- why do they want to speak to you about her?

and ops response was perinatal team confirming it was to discuss her friend she thinks has blocked her.

Weird how people read things so differently.

It wouldn't have occurred to me to read that as 'your perinatal team have contacted me to ask about you' but if so many posters saw it that way, maybe ops friend did too. It would be a bit freaky! And explain why she temporarily blocked you.

Christ knows that is exactly what I thought?! Terribly irresponsible tbh. I was reading the updated answers and was shocked if you go onto see all it’s there confirming that they wanted to discuss ops friend with the op, shocking.

Why have her perinatal team contacted you? Why do they have your details? Are you her emergency contact?

Tbf it wasn’t made clear on the op only with updated responses to questions, I know bizzare isn’t it?! Definitely a reason to withdraw from a friend! And what the hell where the mh team thinking of?

I can only see 4 messages from op. None of them say that the perinatal team contacted op to discuss her friend. Message 3 is just two words that add no clarity at all. Is mn glitchy again and missing messages?

For anyone who can’t see what I can.

No, I'm seeing what you're seeing but it'd be strange for her friend to go MIA if they wanted to talk about the OP so I think we're just deducing from the limited information we have.

Way off piste but what's a status update on WhatsApp?

I thought the original post was pretty clear. Her friend has seen the perinatal mental health people. And now she is due to do likewise so it's natural to want her friends advice. I can't extrapolate anything else from it?

@Babsexxx I can't understand why you think shes confirmed it by saying perinatal team? She obviously means they want to talk to her about her own mental health. Why have you jumped to an explanation that makes absolutely no sense over the obvious one?

Lol can you not read? Op was asked outright! Someone literally asked her why they wanted to speak to op about her? And she responded! Peri natal team she didn’t say o no they don’t want to discuss her they want to discuss me!

So there’s that it’s in black and white I’ve screen shot it and uploaded it onto
the thread to highlight it.

I can't see where the OP has confirmed that it was the friend thwy wanted to talk about? Maybe I've missed it.

I take it as they're both actively engaging with the perinatal MH team and they want to speak to the OP.

We can all see this but it doesn't mean that the MH team want to speak to OP about the friend. They could want to speak to her about her own MH if they are both under the team.

They haven’t denied it though have they which I would of…if I was asked outright on why would they want to speak to me about my friend?, I would quickly correct them and say sorry no that’s not accurate they don’t want to discuss friend with me! We where having a conversation about us both being under the mh team Surely?

OP can you clarify weather or not the perimental health team want to speak to you about your mh or discuss your friends mh? That way we can get a better understanding as to why your friend might be ignoring you.

I doubt they will speak to the op about her friend's mh issues because of GDPR rules it would be a breach of confidentiality.

Yes I read it exactly the same way.
I can't see any post that says they contacted her to discuss her friend.

It's an attention seeking part of the app.

Like on MSN where people used to put 'feeling sad' or whatever

Right!!? I think you have to go into the contact’s info and to see their status… some generic ones like ‘at the gym’ etc. No one uses that feature and OP expects her friend to read and acknowledge her statuses? So weird.

But also definitely assumed OP and friend are both under perinatal team and OP was going to ask friend about her experience with them if any.

But OP this is all very exasperating. Hopefully your friend isn’t ignoring you, but maybe she’s exasperated! Especially if pregnant with not great MH of her own?

Ah right re status update thingy! Never used this! But how do you get everyone else seeing all 'the what's wrong/I'll pm u'
attention bits?!

I don't understand all the mental gymnastics about blocking/ being blocked/ not replying immediately either. I once found out that a former colleague was so angry with me that I didn't react or ask anything at all when she threw me off her facebook or tried to re add her. I had no idea she had removed me till someone told me that years later. I never go through my friends list to see who's there.