Six year old saying really inappropriate swear words

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Ds is 6, with two older siblings (DS age 9, DD age 12), so is around older children a lot and always has been. When I overhear DS (6) with his brother playing outside, he occasionally says some quite wild swear words (the C word - but the lesser C word - for example!) to impress him.

When I hear it, I call it out. And, later, ask his brother if he knows where he’s heard these swear words from, and it’s always been a group of other kids in the neighbourhood who are also a bit older. He did hear “suck my p…” from a FIVE year old though.

I am sure his brother isn’t teaching him these words for a bunch of reasons - one it’s just not his character; two he isn’t impressed by these words and I often hear him say “X, you shouldn’t say that” when they don’t know I can overhear.

What the heck do I do? How do I talk to both DSes about this?

AIBU that this is too much for a six year old and he should keep his innocence a bit longer?! Or is this just normal and I shouldn’t worry about it?!

I'd tell my DD off for saying 'bum head' ! But don't for things like 'oh shit' , 'oh cock' , 'oh fuck' , 'oh balls' etc when used in the correct context.

Swearing at a person is hurtful, swearing as a verb or adjective is just a strong descriptive word. Sometimes 'Golly josh' isn't up to the task!

I would be seriously concerned about the type of children my six year old child was playing with if you heard him saying stuff like this more than once. The words he is saying are rude and disrespectful. I wouldn’t want to hear my 16 year old saying them, let alone 6 year old.
I have no doubts my kids have heard them at school and use them with friends but I would not allow them to continue to use them at home.
At 16 now we share sweary memes that are funny, have no issue with swearing when things hurt for example but wouldn’t expect to hear them day to day. My 11 year old wouldn’t sweat in front of us still. I know she knows the words, I’ve seen them in texts to friends in non abusive ways etc. Still don’t want to hear them.

Stop the playing out. 6 is far too young and this language means I wouldn’t want my kids round them.

I'm with you. I hate hearing kids swearing, it's horrible. Nothing you can do about him hearing those words but if he were mine and I overheard him using them I'd be quick to make sure he knew it wasn't acceptable. No way would I allow him to use this language. It won't reflect well on him.

I’d say ‘suck my penis’ or ‘suck my cock’ is worse than just swearing imo

I don’t really care what words my kids use as long as they’re not said in anger, but I’d not like it if they said such sexualised language and phrases.

DH is a teacher and would definitely be looking into safeguarding referrals if he heard one of his primary students at 6 saying ‘suck my penis’

Swear words aren't necessarily a big deal just make sure they know when it's inappropriate to say them so they don't embarrass you lol
The five year old saying suck my penis is very concerning though that kid could be being abused

@HollyBookBlue I am so stealing this approach for when DD grows up! Genuinely one of the best things I've read on here since I joined, feel like I've had a parenting lesson.

I would be horrified if my young DC came out with language like that. I wouldn’t accept it and they’d be stopped from
playing with children who said such stuff. It’s not normal and shouldn’t be regarded as normal.

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My bill is in the post 🤣

One of my daughters second words was cock. My mum shouted cock at a twat driver and she repeated it over and over again. I'd have an issue with cunt but anything else I can't get worked up about.

My nephew learned a very similar phrase at primary school. Sometimes unfortunately you are stuck with the kids who say this stuff.

For almost my first time on MN I am pearl clutching. DS1 (10) and DS2 (7) have never sworn in public (school are very hot on it, I know because of friends’ experiences). I have also explained to DS1 the difference between swearing in extremis and swearing at or about someone. But I don’t think it’s normal for Primary aged children to swear and not do I think it should be.

I have said that before they each start Secondary we will take DSs through a long list of swear words and phrases. What they ACTUALLY mean and how offensive they are generally considered (with caveats…I avoid saying ‘for God’s sake’ around a couple of committed Christian friends for example). Swearing as a teen for effect is not necessarily bad but causing unnecessary, unintended offence strikes me as ill mannered or perhaps even ignorant.