to be sick of hearing about my friends pregnancy when.......

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She showed no interest whatsoever (to the point of being actually quite rude on some occaisons) in all 3 of mine.....
yet she has has spent the last 2 days CONSTANTLY moaning about pregnancy tiredness, pregnancy hormones, feeling sick at everything, feeling that everything smells bad, turning EVERY conversation back onto her pregnancy, responding to everything I mention about pregnancy by saying "but the books say"................
..........and the best bit........ SHES 4 WEEKS AND 2 DAYS GONE!!!!!!!!!!

This is her first I bet.

aah, the joys of a first pregnancy

YANBU at all.

what ever gave you that impression! Of course - its not just her 1st but she is officially I believe the 1st woman to become pregnant as wel1!!!!

Everything she says, just say 'I know I've been through it 3 times, and you don't know how bad it is until you've been 38 weeks' or similar.

Repeat it often with comments such as 'oh you think it's bad now you're never gonna cope with xyz'

YANBU but she is probably overwhelmed with enver having had anything like it.

bitty unreasonablesome women pre-pg have absolutely no interest in pg or process,that is until it is them. smile sweetly, she will really appreciate your experience, and support...and yep it will be a long 36wk for you

Someone I knew was like this. I was around 3 months pg when she found out she was. Before she got pg she was moaning that I couldn't lift the heavy boxes of chickens(work on a deli) then when she was pg she couldn't lift 3 jacket potatoes!!!

3 jacket potatoes - now that is funny!!!!!! so glad to hear its not just me!all of mine were kept quiet till 12 weeks and that seems to be what most of my friends tend to do - some have announce earlier but I'm starting to feel like i was at the conception with this one (yes she knows when that was as well - date and TIME!) Already had to sit through chapter and verse on the league table results for the choices of maternity hospital, the foods you can and can't eat (really do tell me I had no clue you couldn't eat raw eggs!)how flying is now a no no, colour schemes for the nursery, what exercise is safe to do,names, how she needs to go shopping for maternity clothes, how people at work already suspect..........suddenly booking into a retreat with no communication for the next 8 months seems a good idea!

yabu

You miserable moo.

the thing is when you dont have children you dont understand you do your best but will never be enough for person expecting

but to person giving support if havent had children its hard to know what to say and do

i guess my poor friend thought maybe i didnt care but i was just not sure what to say and do as didnt understand

luckily whe i fell pregnant with ds she didnt resent me for it but was there with he asdvise and wisdom and this made us much closer

dont resent the fact she didnt understand as its natural for anyone without dc to understand but you can can just say well now you know why i neded so much support but not in a horrible way

its the same as childless people looking down on screaming toddlers then when have one of there own you understand the hardness

just offer your wisdom and dont feel resentful

I don't resent her one bit - I'm over the moon theres a baby on the way. What is doing my head is that when I was PG each time I mentioned it she would change the subject to something about herself and now its her turn then she will now only talk about this and talks to me as i haven't got any idea whats being pregnant is like!!!!

why is she your friend exactly/?

well just remind her many women have it done it before her and you should know what your on about you done it 3 times

and just practise one of them nice smiles that really scream out for god sake shut up but i'm really happy for you

Next time she moans about something, just respond with "Well, you'd have known to expect that if you'd bothered to listen to me at all during my 3 pregnancies, but apparently that was boring." Might bring her up short, but then again .....

smile, and imagine her with piles the size of Water melons

Lots of people are like this though, are they not?

You may have sounded just the same to her when you had your first pg - i'm sure most women pg with their first bore at least one person talking about it.

She's had to listen to you with your three pg's so give her some leeway. Isn't that what friends do?

If she wanted a baby it might have been hard to hear about yours.

I like to gab about being pregnant (I'm a first timer and also used to always be out but don't get chance anymore as no money so pregnancy is about all I know at the moment) though on the up side, I've always listened intently to anyone who's been pregnant and all the perils, so fortunately they're happy to listen to me of course.

Just mention all the really nasty end bits like piles, over grown lady garden jungle, standing infront of the house and actually blocking view of it, and getting kicked so hard in the bladder ya can't help but pee a lil bit. Lovely things to dwell on

sounds time for some choice phrases and stifled giggles

find her an ante natal group for first time mums NOW and they can all bore the arse off each other

ahhh.

am i the only one to think it is really nice when a friend gets pregnant??

YANBU - it is tedious - but bless her little pregnant heart nevertheless. At least you only work with her - imagine what agonies her life partner is enduring......