To have suggested quality time every now and then?

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Me and my ex are not together but have children together. It's pretty amicable but there's not much contact at all really. He has a new partner (about a year or so) who also has two kids.

Due to his work he sees them maybe once a month usually for the day a few hours and occasionally has them over night.

They have coped fairly well but the youngest is still struggling a little bit despite reassurance but feels pushed out now 'he has a new family' especially as they don't see him much. I've explained this is not the case but she is additional needs and doesn't understand yet. I suggested maybe it would be nice when he has our children to occasionally (not every single time) to spend time just them and she (the gf) has flipped and said I'm being ridiculous and that she needs to get used to the idea of him and her family so to speak as naturally he is now around her kids more but that would take away time from them. Youngest is 6 if that makes a difference.

Sorry its long was I bu to suggest this?

No you were not.Once a month!

I so agree with special time but I doubt in my experience it won’t sadly happen.The girlfriend will insist they all go to together and their father will go along with it for a quiet life.Seen it happen so often.

My DC had this issue with their father and his GF du jour whoever it was.

He appeared to be incapable of seeing his DC without GF in tow. The DC gradually stopped seeing him as they got older, as they just didn't want this. They didn't mind the occasional joint event, but sometimes they just wanted to see their dad in his own.

YANBU, but I am sceptical your ex will stand up to his gf.

Thank you for your replies I just wasn't sure if I was being unreasonable I've been very relax throughout this whole process I have no issue with the gf or ex so it caught me off guard and made me think I was being unreasonable. I guess time will tell what he will do I've made a suggestion that's all I can do

Sadly the EH will probably bring new GF along to every meeting because its the easiest option for the lazy fucker him.
My DxH1 did this every time and everything and every conversation was about DP herself.
The DC became fed up with this and now DxH1 sees very little of his adult DC because they can't be arsed.

I think both you and the girlfriend have a point. The issue is not the other kids, it’s seeing them once a month. He needs to see them more and integrate them, so they feel part of the family.

what a deadbeat he is.