Whistleblew at work

[OhWhyDoIDoThis]

Like my username, why did I bloody do it!! I called someone out publicly about all the work she was pushing my way - which she shouldn't have done and now there's an atmosphere.

WIBU to just get another job? I realise I just can't cope in a ever expanding group of people. I am better in a very small group setting, say 5 people. Or even better 1 to 1. I want a job where someone gives me the job to do and then let's me get on with it. I love customer service as it's short bursts and then I can just get on with other work. I'm definitely Neurodiverse, I think in a different way to most people and the people who have joined my office, are not my people.

Help me to find my perfect job. I know it's out there somewhere.

Is the atmosphere just with her, or is everyone being off with you now?

Did you try and speak to her first about all this work she was pushing your way?

What was the problem with the work, and why shouldn't it have come your way?

Act like you don't notice the atmosphere and it will become effort for her to keep up the frostiness.

I've confronted somebody at work and it made things worse for a while, as I forced her out of passive communication in to direct communication. She played the victim for a while but then over time she forgot to act aggrieved.

That's not whistle blowing.

you should have gone to a senior member of staff to discuss it properly,

You aren't a whistle blower. That's a term meaning to report hidden wrongdoing to authorities.

I'm not sure what 'call someone out publicly' means but it doesn't sound good. In future:

Step 1- speak to the person causing you a problem directly. Listen to them but explain what you want clearly and firmly.

Step 2- if that doesn't work, speak to your line manager.

Your perfect job doesn't exist because the things you need to fix are inside you, you will carry them with you.

Don't rush to another job, learn from your mistake, apologise if you need to and take time to decide what next.

I'm not sure you've done anything wrong.
If she's not meant to pass it on but has and you've let people know, is that not the right thing to do?

A few questions ;
Is she senior to you ?

Is your workload unmanageable with & without the additional?
When she's passed it over - do you say no? If so, what happens?

I echo PP's its not whistleblowing. You identified a problem and managed it.

The only potential issue I can see is that you should have had the conversation with the directly. It's a bit shitty to have reported her without raising directly with her (I speak from experience this week as I've just had someone report me - I'd have preferred her to come to me herself but hey ho).

You being ND should be accounted for and understood. I would ride it out for a while before jumping ship.

This. That's not whistleblowing.

*as long as 'call her out publicly means speak to her Manager

Whistleblowing is anonymously reporting something

Saying that, at my previous job I wouldn't have trusted it to be anonymous

Were the person and your manager aware you're neurodiverse?

If they didn't know - they can't know what effect it had on you until you called it out. (Not whistleblowing by the way).

If they did know, a conversation about what works and does not work is usually best. You have a right to reasonable adjustments under the Equality Act.

You also have the right to know what kind of work atmosphere works for you! A small business / team / 1-1 / customer service all work for you, as you've mentioned, so you do have a clear sense of your needs.

Go for that.

And ensure everyone's clear about what does not work for you because of neurodiversity needs

You didn't whistleblow - you caused a scene.

You need to speak to your manager.

Reporting unacceptable behaviour/workplace bullying isn't the same as legal whistleblowing; however, the effect upon you is the same.

Have you spoken to whoever in management acted upon your (justified) complaint and said that you feel there is an atmosphere/people are being unpleasant to you since you've disclosed this behaviour?

Victimisation for making a disclosure is also not allowed, whether they knew or at least believed you were ND and were taking advantage of it, or whether this was more of a grievance matter that was handled, informally or formally.

Finding a different job is fine, but you don't have to leave if you don't want to and it's only a resentful colleague who was pulled up on skiving/bullying you that's got the arse about it.