I’m worried about my child biting at nursery

[VampireBabby]

Title says it all really.

Youngest DC (22m) is starting nursery very soon and going through a really bad biting stage.

I am so worried about potentially biting other children at nursery. My other children never went through this and I feel a bit lost about what to do!

My oldest DC was bitten at nursery a few years ago and I was really cross about it. I don’t want to be “that mum” with the horrible child.

Mention it to nursery, there isn’t a lot else you can do, they should keep a closer watch. One of my children was bitten at nursery and I wasn’t angry because I was happy with how nursery dealt with it and I knew that it was just luck that I wasn’t the parent of the biter!

Warn the staff that he bites and let them know what triggers the biting. They won't judge - it's extremely common - but will be extra vigilant.

Biting is a normal stage of development, it's not nice but it's almost unavoidable in a nursery setting.

Hopefully now you know that a biting phase isn’t a sign that a child is “horrible “

My 18mo daughter does the odd bite at nursery. Without wanting to sound too flippant, it’s a really common thing and nothing to worry about. Just boundary pushing

My little one has been at nursery for just over 2 years- he's been bitten twice and has bitten others twice! 😭 So evens out I guess?!

As PP have said, it's something they will be very used to dealing with and there are procedures in place for reporting it.

A good idea to let them know. In our experience they value any feedback on how they've been at home, phases etc.

Try not to worry!

Yes notify the nursery this is happening. And do apologise to the parents of the children if she's bitten anyone. It may be a normal thing but people will still be pissed off at their child being hurt.

i wouldn’t expect an apology (in fact nursery shouldn’t tell you who it is, though my child did tell me)

Obviously I have let nursery know and will remind then when DC actually starts.

and yes @Tinybrother I guess it’s karma for being a judgy mam in the first place. I have realised I was irrationally cross about it before. Pretty embarrassed about it now.

It is very common. My DS went through this phase: mortifying but not much I could do other than apologise to the staff and ask if the victim was OK. (I never found out who the child was and I’ve never found out or asked who was responsible when DS was bitten.)

My DS stopped at around 22 months if that helps.

Give nursery the heads up, I bet they won't even flinch it's so common. One of mine was a biter, but he's grown out of it now (thankfully as he's 25).

Yeah when it happened before my child told me who it was, not nursery. I was more annoyed with nursery for “letting” it happen but now I have more children I realise how difficult it is to have eyes/a quick reaction for everything.

I guess I’m just paranoid that other parents will be as judgy as I shamefully was

Thanks everyone, you’ve already made me feel better. I genuinely didn’t realise it was so common.

half convinced myself DC had a touch psychopath 😂

Nursery staff will have seen it all before, and will appreciate the heads up. Some parents will be understanding, others less so, but then some parents are just horrible people.

Thanks to FB I've recently been privy to what must be the world's most perfect mothers to the world's most perfect children working themselves up over the actions of a kid in my youngest's nursery class.

They made themselves look like vindictive fools, even telling another mum that the unknown child who had pushed hers will have definitely been this particular kid, that they all need to go to the teacher together, etc.

I'd rather associate with the little boy they were bad mouthing than that pack of bitches, that's for sure!

Send him in wearing a t-shirt saying ‘beware-I bite’ and a picture of a dinosaur 🦕
That’s obviously a joke 🤣 just tell the staff - they will have seen it many times beforeZ